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I know what you mean. It will always hurt I think.

Well, now its over 7 + years and not much has changed. I'm still working part-time and trying to stay busy, but nothing is like it used to be.

Hi Cookie, I am in that same boat also. I am heading for 6 yrs and at our age with nothing to look forward too. I just think I am ticking off time. It will get easier in time but not what we want. Hugs

Thank you all. The reason I didn't come back was I was in another forum that was pretty lively at the time, I even meet the Admin. and other widows for lunch. I then lost interest or something happen so I left. I have been to many groups, and counseling, grief share, everything and place that is local , and nothing seems to really help. I guess I just want my old life back even though it wasn't perfect or like it should have been. Now after this long it almost seems I was never married, it feel like its always been this way. I didn't know what I had until I lost him. Yes, I do agree with what Kayc says, it is better in some ways, not quite as hurtful but it still hits hard some days. In some ways it feels worse. They say the 5th year mark is a killer and it is! Maybe because we know now there is no turning back or bringing back. We are just stuck with what is. I really do hate this new normal, its not normal at all.

I joined this group soon after the death of my husband and I am just now finding my way back. It's been close to 6 years now and I still don't feel much better. I'm ok, an try to keep busy, I feel more alone and forgotten most of the time. Some say its gets better but I don't think so. It's just more of the same, day after day. I don't have much family left and very few friends. How does one keep going when you have tried all there is to do? I tried the dating sites and that makes me feel worse. I was married 40 yrs and kinda set in my ways and not even sure if I want to begin again at this age. Is anyone else in the same boat? What have you done after your 5 yrs of widowhood?