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sgtkelly3

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    Sept 1990
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    San Diego, CA
  1. Shtangist, Thank you for sharing. I lost my father when I was 2-years-old. He was a sergeant in the local police force who died in the line of duty. You mention something that struck a cord with me -- as a man being afraid to display a side of you. I wrestle with that a lot too. I feel like I always need to have my emotions under control. That I always need to seem cool and happy, like nothing bothers me. Things started changing for me this year when I started seeing a therapist once a week and got involved in the ManKind Project. Both have changed my life for the better as I learn to properly heal and start feeling small glimmers of hope. Take care of yourself, -David
  2. I agree with the earlier sentiments. I've been going to counseling for grief work the past 14 months and I still see a benefit from it. I wouldn't put an arbitrary number on it if you don't have to. If you feel the need to go to more than 7, try to go to more than 7. If it's not possible, look into group counseling sessions or bereavement counseling -- if you call your health insurance, they'll direct you to someone in-network.
  3. When I was 2 years old, my father passed away. About 10 years ago, my mom said something to me that I'll never forget. The part about grieving no one thinks about is what happens *after* you stop paying attention to the person grieving. What happens 2 months in? 6 months in? I remember my mom telling me how lonely she felt after the dust had settled and people thought they didn't have to check-in on her anymore. One thing I've noticed as I'm currently going to therapy for my "delayed grief reaction" (thanks, Marty, for the term!) is I'm separating from my old friends more and more. Frankly, I don't want to talk to them. I make excuses like I'm busy, don't call them, I'm slow to respond to their texts, etc. The only thing that fulfills me somewhat is meeting new people who deeply understand my grief and pain -- people in my improv class and ManKind Project groups. If you haven't already, I'd look into therapy, group counseling, church...SOMETHNG where you connect with people at a more deep, authentic level. Best of luck, -David
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