scottd

I hear you and I, am going through the same thing.My mom had a bladder infection and the doctor gave her Cipro which is so powerfull they should take it off the market.My moms kidneys were affected by it and she passed May 5,2015.She had no cancer, no diabetes and in good health.My guilt is I never should have taken her to the hospital in January when she got dizzy from bactrum for her first UTI.I should have just kept her home and wrapped her back.The hospital stay and 2 weeks of Rehab did her more harm than good.My guilt is so much and my grief of her not being here to touch and hug is to much to bare.My grief groups have tried to help but my guilt is still here.

Mom passed on May 5,2015 and the guilt I have over her passing is still with me and more powerfull than ever.Mom had got a UTI the first she ever got in 88 years and the doctor issued her Bactrum which made her a little dizzy and she had a fall in her bedroom.My sister and I took her to the hospital to get checked out which they did and found she had a small back fracture which they had a brace made for her and then advised us to have her go to a rehab for 2 weeks.My guilt is that the hospital and rehab stays were not beneficial to her at all and she came home for 3 months but was never the same.Mom got another bladder infection and the doctor issued her Cipro which was to strong for her and affected her kidneys.When she started to get diaria I had to take her to the hospital and the nurse said shes dry and in kidney failure which knocked me for a loop.They tried to do some dialysis to kick start the kidneys but it did not work and she passed on May 5,2015. My guilt is that I never should have taken her to the hospital the first time and should have wrapped her back and kept her home, if I had did that she would be here right now.I cant live with this guilt and grief.

I understand exactly what your going through.I lost my mom May 5,2015.My mom was not only that but my best friend.She had a fall in her bedroom after getting dizzy, as she was on Bactrum for a UTI which she had never got before 88.I was scared so we took her to the hospital to get checked.It was my great regret that I took her.The hospital kept her a week with all kind of tests and then rehab for 2 weeks that did more bad than good for her.My guilt is I should have kept her home and just wrapped her back and let it heal here at home and just finished off her bactrum for the next two days to get rid of the UTI.Had I followed that course she would still be here.Im having a tremendous amout of guilt that I cheated her out of time she had left.My days and nights are just a fog and my life does not seem important anymore.