Thank you so much Marty, your reply is comforting.
My daughter and I have, and always have had, an easy loving trusting relationship. We are close and this shared sadness has brought us even closer.
Since Isabel died we have both cried so much, both together and alone, that for me to comfort her when she was crying was basically reflex. She continued on with what she had been saying so I don't feel I curtailed that at all.
The article you sent to the link to is also very helpful helpful.
Should I let this go or somehow explain to the person that it was not a helpful thing to say?