I'm sorry, because I don't know if this is posted in the correct spot. My father died ten years ago, and now my mother is dying. I am having a very hard time dealing with the anticipatory grief associated with her chronic illness and pending death. I live overseas with my husband and children, while my mother has just been put in a nursing home in Minnesota. Her doctor has given her a year to live. I'm overwhelmed with guilt and grief about not being able to be with her, and although I should be able to visit her within the next 3 months or so, I am so ripped apart by not being with her now. What's strange is that although we live so far apart from one another, we have both adapted, and have been able to maintain a fairly close relationship between phone calls, emails and my visits. But now, as I contemplate life without her, I am stunned. I am an only child, and lost my father 10 years ago. I'm devastated because I know that with my mother's passing, whether it be tonight, or five years from now, I will have lost the last person who loved me unconditionally, and I'm not sure I can continue without her. I know I will have to remain strong for my children, and because I must work to help support my family. I don't have the luxury of suicide, or giving up. I can't be that selfish. But my breath is taken away at the thought of having to live in a world without her. I never would have guessed that grief beforehand could hurt so much. I really don't know how to go on.