JanBlu

Nope, and I haven't, but I didn't want him playing 20 questions wondering what was wrong. Didn't have to go into detail. After all, I chose him.

The dream I had before I met him was very frightening, as I had mentioned earlier,- I had been very sick and after I had the dream I slept with the lights on for the next three nights. The dream I had that alerted me to the fact that things might not be ok with him was not so- he quoted me on two things that I had said during the time we were together and he had sooty energy at first. He and I walked out into the light and he took his hand and put light on my upper chest by my collarbone and I reached over and grasped his other hand. I have never felt the kind of love I felt when he did this and as we were standing in the light, I realized he was transformed and was healed and well. That would have been about a month before he passed, so you see he was alive and had communicated. I had a dream the other night and I was walking through a place he liked to be and as I looked at my reflection in the water, I realized I was actually looking up at myself through the water and yet he was standing behind me and I heard him say "We need to get to the bottom of this." I walked over to a group of trees and again, he was behind me and said the same thing. Not sure yet what was meant by what he said, but I hope I will find out. I think that I have always had this, but it really became prominent when I got sick all those years ago. The one thing that seems to be a commonality with these type of "dreams" is the person who presents in them is either very ill, heavily medicated, doing drugs, or passed over to the other side. My current partner's mother came to me just as I woke up at 4 in the morning and I was standing behind her as she sat in her chair, being engulfed in flames. It was so in my face that I had to wake him and tell him what I was seeing. He was irritated with me and yet, a week later his mother called him out of the blue (there had been some family dynamics where he was keeping his distance) and told him her electricity had shut down. He went over to her house and the coffee pot had shorted out, and her smoke detector batteries were all dead and non-operative. Needless to say, his mom was still alive, but had an addiction to prescription meds. He realized what I had seen and that there was a reason for it. My own aunt, who had passed on, came to me and was telling me not to be so harsh about something. Her voice, her appearance- everything- there was no mistaking it was her. My current partner was not so amused when the other man passed on his birthday. The strange thing is that the man from my past, on the night we met, asked my full name, date of birth and birthplace earlier in the evening. He later walked with me over to an old hotel and by chance we walked inside the lobby and looking into the mirror, we looked at each others' reflections and he said my full name and my date of birth and where I had been born, and then his full name date of birth and where he had been born. He turned and looked directly at me and told me that I would always remember this and he was right. Some people believe in reincarnation, I believe in at least a pre-existence, and I know he and I were together.

I can relate to this after having to let go of a relationship. To this day I still don't know if it was the right thing to do or a major mistake :/ Sometimes life is very grey and has to be accepted as such. I am so sorry for your pain In my situation, I have to remind myself that it wouldn't have worked to stay with them and that it was the best thing I could have done for the person- letting go. They blossomed and their life got better.

Please see my post below. In spite of my own experiences, I did try a medium, and they pretty much confirmed everything. I still tend to rely on my own experiences and all this did was validate them. I think it is wiser for myself to trust myself and know. There was the element of mediumship around the whole relationship that I was in- it was there to start with and I know I had a pre-existence with this person. Good luck and I would like to know how it turns out

I don't know about the mediums, but I am absolutely going through a craziness I never thought possible. A man I was in a past relationship with that I had not had contact with for 13+ years- I moved quite a distance away and am in another relationship. Here is the thing- I had a profound dream about him and the dream prompted me to look him up, so I did. By the time this had happened, he was terminally ill. I decided to keep myself at a distance- I didn't want to cause any trouble or pain for him or the family. He passed on my current partner's birthday. I have had dreams since and rather than him being in the dreams, for the most part, I can feel his presence as I come out of dreams about something else. I know.... it sounds crazy. We had a very tempestuous relationship almost 20 years ago and I just couldn't take the angry comments from him plus other issues, and I left one morning. We started seeing each other about four years later after we made contact due to me being in a crisis situation and again I was the one who distanced myself, even though he seemed quite a bit better. I knew that he had my back, and I felt bad, but had I stayed, I don't think he would have gotten better to the degree that he had in later times. The stuff that comes into my mind that I never realized about him has been very hard for me- I was very unconscious in a lot of ways. Some of it I am sure is my own realization, but some of it I know is not. It has to be coming from him. The dream that started this back up took me by surprise, even though it shouldn't have. 28 years ago, I was very sick and I dreamed about him, even though I had never seen him before in my life. 7 years later I met him for the first time. The whole things was crazy scarey and I could go on and on, but I will spare all who read this. I am just wondering if there is anyone out there who has had this type of experience and how things ended up. I don't know how to say this, but I miss him terribly. I know that he had really done a lot of things to clear up his life, but there is still that closure that hangs over me and all the stuff keeps coming up.