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I got a message from him just before saying he's breaking up with me. He said it was nothing to do with me and he was very much in love with me, he just can't be in a relationship. He said 6 months down the line we could possibly get back together. I told him I just want him to be happy and he said, "I'm not totally sure I am totally happy" which I'm not sure if he means within himself or the choice he made, I'll find out soon. Surprisingly, I'm fine. I was upset for an hour or two but I feel okay. I know if he does truly love me he will come back once he is in a better place. We only have shared happy memories, he only has those to look back on. If it's meant to be it will happen. I won't pin all my hope on it just in case it doesn't happen, I don't want to be disappointed. For now, I will concentrate on work, driving lessons, friends & family and just keep myself busy. I'll keep you updated what happens in the future, but for now I'm happy where I am.

Kayc, Thank you so much for the quick response! I too have read many of posts in this thread. It is comforting to know that it happens to many people. At least I have the hope of him possibly staying with me as he hasn't officially ended it. Many people on this thread didn't have that luxury. I want to give him time but how longs too long as I don't want to be strung along just hoping he'll stay with me, it isn't fair to me. I love him with all my heart and he knows that even though I haven't told him in a while. I stupidly mentioned the relationship at the beginning but haven't done since. I just want him to be happy whether he's with me or not. I'm happy you managed to stay friends with yours! It must be lovely to know he's there, even if it wasn't what it once was. It's nice to know you came out stronger on the other side and I hope that can happen to me whether I'm with him or not.

Hey, I just hoped you guys would give me some advice. I have been looking through all the forums, but sometimes I need advice to my specific case (even though they are very similar). My boyfriend lost his nanna. He was obviously upset and I let him know I was there for him no matter what. Just as he was beginning to feel better, his Grandad died not long after his nanna. I text him to see if everything was alright, if he wanted time away from me. He said he wasn’t sure and needed time to think. He isn’t sure whether he wants to break up, take a break or stay together. This is killing me as our connection was so deep and he turned in a matter of hours, not even over night. I know double death is hard, I well and truly feel for him. I’m just stuck in a limbo and it’s killing me. I also have anxiety issues and not knowing what’s going on is severely affecting me. I haven’t eaten in days; I’m just a big bag of worry.