MartyT

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About MartyT

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    Grief Counselor
  • Birthday 02/10/1943

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  • Your relationship to the individual who died
    mother, daughter, friend
  • Date of Death
    5/26/67, 9/3078,10/06/93
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    NA

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    Sarasota, Florida

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  1. Travel safely today, dear Marg. Our thoughts and prayers are with you ~ and I have faith that your Billy is watching over both of you ♥
  2. So nice to hear from you again, Robin, and we appreciate the update. As you approach this one-year mark, our thoughts are with you ♥
  3. I doubt very much that you forgot, Marg. As you said, why let you call local doctors if she already had an appointment elsewhere? I suspect that in this case, it is your daughter who "forgot" that she had failed to tell you about it.
  4. Thank you ever so much for the update, Carol Ann, and for describing so vividly your cataract surgery! (I am facing that same procedure at some point in the not-too-distant future, and I appreciate your sharing those positive details!) I'm also relieved to know that you came through with flying colors. Now just rest and focus on healing. And just thinking about your getting a hearing assist dog makes me so happy for you! How exciting is THAT?! Sending healing hugs to you ♥
  5. That is why we so appreciate your keeping us posted on your progress, JohnR ~ and we are grateful ♥
  6. I thought of you and your children, DanyGreen, when I read this article just now in The New York Times: How to Build Resilient Kids, Even After a Loss In addition to learning about what is normal (and therefore to be expected) in grief, I also think the best thing you can do for your children's grief is to take care of your own grief first. When you understand what you are thinking and why you may be feeling as you do, you're in a much better position to manage your own reactions, as well as those of your kids. That said, I invite you to read some of the articles listed here: Children, Teens & Grief. See especially Teen Grief: Mourning the Death of a Parent ♥
  7. Yes, Kay ~ It literally took my breath away when I first heard that poem recited in a scene in the movie Four Weddings and a Funeral. I left the movie theater determined to find it written somewhere, and later learned the poem was by W.H. Auden. Now, of course, the scene is available on YouTube: https://youtu.be/b_a-eXIoyYA Funeral Blues by W.H. Auden Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone, Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone, Silence the pianos and with muffled drum Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come. Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead Scribbling on the sky the message He is Dead. Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves, Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves. He was my North, my South, my East and West, My working week and my Sunday rest, My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song; I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong. The stars are not wanted now; put out every one, Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun, Pour away the ocean and sweep up the woods; For nothing now can ever come to any good.
  8. In case you're interested, I just happened upon this insightful article about the so-called "new normal" ~ a term we use so often when speaking about grief and loss: The New Normal
  9. For those who may be interested in reading more on this topic, see Pet Loss: Do Pets Go to Heaven? ♥
  10. Demoted to Lunch: The Underbelly of Grief by Laurie Burrows Grad "What fascinates me is that women today are more open about the pain of childbirth than they are about the pain of grief." Read on here >>>
  11. We have several members who've passed that 5-year milestone, my dear, and I'm sure you'll hear from more of them. Just recently our own Anne (enna) addressed your question in a thread she started, Changes I'm Making: As I Approach the Fifth Year Next Month Without My Jim. You may find this article helpful as well: Bereavement: Doing The Work of Grief ♥
  12. Dear Beth Ann, I too am sorry for your loss, but pleased that you've found your way to this warm and caring place. I assure you that here you will find that most certainly you are not "the only person on the planet feeling this way." In addition to the article that Kay has mentioned above, I invite you to read the following: How Can The World Go On When My Loved One Has Died? In Grief: Feeling No Support In The Wake of Loss In Grief: Feeling Let Down By Closest Friends In Grief: How Much Can One Person Take? Grief Support: When Others Fail to Meet Our Expectations
  13. Maynard, my dear, I think this is something we all endure at one time or another. Grief has a way of leaving us feeling extremely vulnerable and hypersensitive to the words and actions of those around us. You may find this article to be of interest ~ and be sure to notice the links at the base of the article as well: Grief Support: When Others Fail to Meet Our Expectations ♥
  14. Maylissa, my dear, just so you know: the http://hovforum.ipbhost.com connection is no longer functional. You will need to change that portion of the link (in your signature) to http://www.griefhealingdiscussiongroups.com
  15. It's so lovely to see you here again, dear Carol Ann, and of course we remember you! I'm so sorry to learn of your physical health issues, and of your facing cataract surgery on Monday. You have so much on your plate right now, and I hope you can feel our collective arms around you, welcoming you back with healing thoughts and caring hearts! Just a quick tip: You might consider obtaining one or more of Belleruth Naparstek's guided imagery CDs (also available to download as MP3s) to help ease some of that anxiety and fear. If you click on the links, you can listen to samples of each: Meditations to Promote Successful Surgery A Meditation to Help You Be Relaxed & Awake During Medical Procedures