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shhh65

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  • Birthday 07/03/1946

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    12/22/07
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    IL
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    Bible study, my family, camping, fishing.
  1. Marty, Thank YOU for providing this forum. I didn't know if I would EVER get to this place. I think it's important for us to be able to share our successes with the ones we hold so dear in this process. And, I can only pray it gives a tiny bit of hope to others who are new to this journey who might click on this discussion group.
  2. Reporting in after being a snowbird for the last 3 months. I met some wonderful couples and made friends who have already called and emailed to check on me since I returned home last week. God is faithful even when I am not and He sent a wonderful new widow friend while I was there. She and her husband had been to this particular campground year before last. He passed away just a year ago this month. I was so proud of her for attempting this so soon on her own and we became fast friends. She told me she was so happy I was there for her as well. I felt it was my time to "pay it forward" so to speak and was glad to be strong enough to be there for her. I grew in my confidence and happiness. I'm no longer wishing I was dead but looking forward to life. I'm sure there will be setbacks along the way, I don't kid myself about that. My children had been to see me last November because they were worried about me. I love them so much and I don't want to be a source of worry to them on top of the grief they bear in losing their Dad. Just wanted to share some positive news with those of you who have been traveling down this road with me. I'm hoping each of you are having some successes in finding happiness as well. God Bless!
  3. Gail, I only get on here occassionally now but was so happy to read of your engagement. I wish you both health, happiness and much love!
  4. Kay, I wish you could be here too. I'd love to meet you in person and who knows, maybe we will. I feel certain God will provide a way for us to meet some day but until then we will continue to make our way down this path getting to know & supporting each other in this forum. Love & peace,
  5. Hi Kay! Just over 2 years for me. As you know, I'm at a campground in Alabama for the winter. I didn't know if I could do this without Harry. He loved it so much and was so looking forward to our retirement. I was talking to Mary Linda last night and I told her it seems odd but I do better when I am away. I think it's because every time I look out my kitchen window at home I'm reminded of seeing him laying there behind the shed. I guess I need to do some deep thinking about that. I've tried not to make rash decisions. It's the one piece of advice almost every other widow consistently gave me in the beginning. I miss Harry's silly sense of humor, the looks he gave me...even the ones I got when he was annoyed with me. Most of all I miss his unconditional love. Good to hear from you and I will defintely be getting on here more often to check out the new beginnings section. I pray the "oldies" are finding a sense of peace and finding their way down this path to some degree of happiness.
  6. Thanks for the kind and encouraging words girls. Babs, they have a used book store here & I will check to see if they have that book. If not, my sister runs one back home and maybe she will have it. Our retirment plans now have to become my retirment plans. I really dislike the winter weather, I have this camper, so here I am giving it a try. Yes, I also think Harry would be proud of me. Peace to you as well.
  7. Kay, you asked me to post how it's going. I'm happy to report that in spite of getting a late afternoon start, we managed to get the camper down here and set up the next afternoon (December 28th). My brother-in-law, sister & nephew stayed with me for a week. When they left, I did not cry. I go to almost every activity and I'm meeting really nice people. I've had a few problems with the camper but with the help of others, I've gotten them fixed or figured out and managed to even laugh about it. I've noticed that my sense of humor is coming back and it feels good. I'm not fooled. I know I will face periods of sadness but I'm trying to focus on living. I'm happy the weather is starting to improve and looking forward to getting down to the beach. More later.... Sherry
  8. Thank you all for the kind words and encouragement. Mary Lou, I'm happy to hear that you are still able to use your camper. I'm hoping for a good experience as well. I do know that Harry would be proud of me for trying this. Sherry
  9. I'm trying something new this winter. My husband and I had planned to take our camper and travel after his retirement but he died suddenly just 6 working days short of that goal. After the 2nd anniversary of his death, December 22nd, and Christmas with my family, I have a reservation in a campground near Gulf Shores, AL for Jan-March. I need to make a decision about the camper, whether to keep it or sell it. I think this will help me decide and get me out of the harsh part of the winter here in Illinois. I'm trying to be optimistic but if it doesn't work out I'm not going to be hard on myself. I think we can only keep trying to figure out what our future is without the one we thought we would spend it with. Sherry
  10. I just read your latest post. I've been backsliding in my grief journey lately. So very sorry for all of us!

  11. Thanks so much and my Steve was the same way, always took such good care of me...I miss him terribly ! (((HUGS))) Wendy

  12. shhh65

    Thanking God for the beautiful weather for Tom's Memorial fundraiser today.

  13. Thinking of you and wondering how you are.

  14. I'm so sorry to hear about the physical pain you are in right now with your neck. I think about how good Harry took care of me when I was sick.

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