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Dear Ones, Tom Zuba is a widower and twice-bereaved dad who describes himself as one who, for more than 20+ years, has been "learning to live life with the death of my 18-month-old daughter Erin in 1990, my 43-year-old wife Trici in 1999, and my 13-year-old son Rory in 2005." This beautiful piece was written by Tom, and posted October 9 on his Facebook page: There is no going back ever to the person you were before the person you love died. That person the person you were before died, too. There is no going back. You now have several choices. 1. Remain stagnant. Stuck between. And eventually rotting from the inside out. You will have much company in this place. 2. Fall deeper into the darkness. And allow anger sadness regret hopelessness despair guilt vengefulness and hatred to eat you alive. This does not just happen. This happens due to the choices you make. And yes, you will have plenty of company here, too. 3. Become Radiant. Not in spite of the fact that someone you love dearly has died. But because of that fact that someone you love so dearly has died. This is a small, growing group of humans. You will recognize each other by your gentleness with life. Your ability to forgive everyone for everything every time. (You love yourself that much.) By your compassion and your love. But most of all you will recognize each other by the way you feel feel when you are around each other. You will feel more alive than you have ever felt before. You Dance Between Both Worlds.