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Today I find myself ten years after the death of my husband Donald at a crossroads. The signs at the crossroads reads, Past and Present. My past leads me down memory lane where I spent over twenty years with my late husband, Donald. The present is my life with my current husband, Willie. Two very different individuals. Two very different lives. Although I have rebuilt my life for the past 9 years with Willie..I3 years dating as he also worked through the grief of losing his wife and raising a 13 year old daughter without her, I have never disconnected from my attachment to "Donald Ducky". He makes me smile even today. Last night I wrote in blog a post, "Ten Years and Counting". It helps to write andt share my thoughts with others. In 2011, I published a collection of memories and tools that helped me through the grieving period, "Joy Comes Through the Mourning". In 2011, Willie and I attempted to start a ministry at our church called "Crossroads". We both are trained counselors. He secular and I am a biblical counselor. Unfortunately, it did not take off the way we had hoped. The individuals who attended are still in touch with us. We even got a thank you, because two of the attendee just recently started dating. We did not intend for our ministry to be a dating service. It was to be a resource where we could all share and reach out. My question to you. Where are you in your tranformation process? Have you been able to rebuild a life that brings you joy? Have you given yourself permission to move on, yet hold on to the wonderful memories of your previous relationship. I find that my life is fuller, because Willie and I include our late loved in our lives.