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I just wanted to write something about the grief counsellor I went to see on Monday. I had a lot of positive encouragement from you all to go and I thank you for that. The lady was very kind and it was quite a relief to be able to talk about what has happened to someone whom I won't upset. She did make a couple of comments that I found unusual though. I said that I thought my husband would be in huge shock himself at his passing as it was so unexpected and at a time in our lives when we had so much planned and so much to do. This included finishing renovating my mom's house and renting it out to help with finances. My husband was very motivated to get this done and in fact the day of his funeral was the day we were due to start. We talked of little else. The counsellor then said 'Yes I imagine his soul hovered for quite some time over his body. he would have been in shock' I wasn't perturbed by this as I believe in the afterlife and the continuation of the soul I just found it a little strange coming from a counsellor, I don't know why. Towards the end of our session she said 'Do you feel your husband around you? ' Again I found that a little strange. It is in keeping with my belief system but is not necessarily everyone else's. I would be interested in your thoughts on this and whether anyone has been asked anything similar?