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My Jack, or as I called him nugget, was the best other half. He gave me the best Valentine's Day I could have ever imagined. He passed just over a month later. He was so over the top with everything he did for me and with me! His personality was over the top. Every day was a surprise and a gift! Losing him on march 16, 2015 was the worst day of my life. Dating again is always difficult. I've been a long term relationship kind of girl my entire life. Since Jack'a passing I have broken up quickly with partners whom I don't see a future with. 

I may very well be just cutting out ppl who don't make me feel like he did. I hope not! I want to be loved like this again! I miss my goofy, tall, over the top personality, amazing other half!

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JHCP the pictures you shared are beautiful. I'm sorry you have to spend this day of love without your love. This is my first valentine's day without my love and I never felt so alone. As for the whole dating and breaking it off that you mentioned I'm pretty sure you are making comparisons, how could you not, we all want that identical copy of our loves but it's just not possible.

Hang in there....

 

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1 hour ago, martha jane said:

No, We used to do cards and I sometimes got candy but after he got sick those things went by the wayside. He couldn't go shopping, couldn't drive very often.

 

Yes. The last six years, my wife was too weak to go out shopping so I did that for "us".  I missed the earlier days when she was able to. Every time has a season.  - Shalom

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For six years? I am sorry, it must have been so hard for you and her both. My husband did okay with his Parkinson's up until the last two years. He would drive to get a haircut and pick up a few groceries by leaning on the buggy.   He had surgery for a kidney stone and when he came home he went into acute kidney failure. I got him to the hospital just in time. Last year he had trouble with this blood pressure, it got up to 237 in the emergency room. They called in a kidney and blood pressure specialist and I feel he saved his life that time. Then this year he started hurting.  I called for an ambulance because he couldn't get off the bed by himself. They seemed to think he didn't need to go but I insisted. I believe if I hadn't got him to the hospital he would have died here at home. After a month and 14 days he died with sepsis. It was so so hard, at first he suffered really bad and was delirious. He told us one day that ya'll don't believe me but I am going to die. We assured him he wasn't , that he had to live because our anniversary was soon. On our anniversary he was put on hospice and he never spoke again. He lived 14 days with no water or food. His eyes were closed and his head drawn back and his mouth wide open. It was so hard to see him like that. I had never seen anyone die before but my daughters and I stayed by the bedside until he was gone. It was just a last deep breath. My daughter had her hand over his heart and was praying. I was holding his hands and my other daughter was stooped in the floor  crying like a wounded animal. I will never ever forget this as long as I live. I did not know he would die, he had been sicker before and came home. I have tried to do some housework but all I can do today is cry. I can't talk on the phone because I don't want people to hear me cry. I am glad I can come here and pour everything out even though I am probably repeating everything that I have already posted but I can't help it. The pain is so hard to bear and I don't want to worry my children.

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Angela kept a lot of the Cards I gave her, Valentines Day and Christmas......I go through them on these occasions....feel teary and happy at the same time.....I'm so greatful that Angela kept these aside and we both continued this so long.......Remembering "The way we were" and the saying "don't take anything for granted".....is so true......all the best kevin

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Lovely pictures JHCP....I shouldn't be embarassed to say that photos of my wife and I's lounge on most Valentine's Days would have looked very similar!

I set out to make a card scrapbook a few weeks ago as I think it's a beautiful idea but it just made me cry too much to finish so I only started it....just too early I guess!

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We had a big wood covered steel chest with two huge drawers in it.  He had the top drawer and I had the bottom, it was to keep our mementos in.  I have our cards, etc. in there but I've combined our drawer now, the other one is empty.

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