Hysterical Crying Remedies Question
Posted 27 June 2006 - 03:27 PM
Posted 28 June 2006 - 01:18 AM
I would say that what you did was not only ok, but a huge step forward. And, it's funny, but when you said that it was the first time you didn't talk through what was bothering you with someone, I immediately thought, you did "talk" it through with someone...you. I have found that sometimes when I just have to think something out, I do it better alone, in my head. I think, maybe, that's what you did. And I think that's great.
Posted 28 June 2006 - 06:08 PM
I also really wanted to echo what Paul and Haley said on another post. Thank you so much for how open and welcoming you are to everyone on this site. So many times I see you reach out to someone, welcome them, and give them a hug. You always find such thoughtful words for everyone. You are like the warm welcoming hugger; it's so wonderful! We are all so lucky to have you here to make us feel welcomed into our warm little community of understanding. You are such a huge part of that!
Posted 29 June 2006 - 01:19 AM
Gosh, thank you so much. I'm blushing from all these compliments, but they are greatly appreciated.
Oh, boy, do I know what you are going through. I have my mom and brother to talk about my dad with, so that is wonderful. But I had a boyfriend (the love of my life, actually) that died years ago, but I never had anyone to talk to about him. After my dad died, it brought back his death very strongly to me and I contacted his brother (who I was friends with, but just recently found out where he was) but he didn't really want to talk about him either. I'm afraid I brought up painful memories for him and that made me feel terrible, but I just wish there was someone who knew him too that I could talk with.
As far as people getting silent when you bring up Josh, I guess they just don't know what to say or are afraid if they talk about him too they will upset you. Or, I hate to say this, but some people just don't want to face anything "unpleasant" and since they haven't experienced the same grief, they don't want to think about it. I don't know, I've had all kinds of responses and most of them aren't good. I guess people are just clueless! That's what directed us all to this wonderful site. Please, is you want to talk about Josh here, do so. I know it's not the same as with people who knew him, but I find it touching to hear stories about loved ones.
Keep talking to yourself too. You'll be amazed at what good company you are!
Posted 29 June 2006 - 08:52 AM
And I nominate shell to be the Official Grief Healing Dot Com's Greeter and Hugger!
MartyT: is the job open?
Posted 29 June 2006 - 08:10 PM
Shell and Paul, Well, it sounds like I need to do more exploring of this talking to myself. I have been talking to Josh (in my mind), and today I started talking out loud to Josh (I live alone; only my fishy responds!). So maybe next I will try this talking things out with my best listener, me. I can't get away! I have to listen!
Today, one of my friends invited himself over to cook me dinner. (A long time friend from college) Well, when I brought up stuff about Josh, he actually let me talk about it. This is certainly a change from how I've been feeling the last month or so. Very relieving. I relish these moments. This will be a tough weekend for me; last year Josh and I were setting up his apartment less than a mile from where I live now. I drive by his street almost everyday. The name of his street was High Point. Sometimes it strikes me as so ironic. High Point. Was it the High Point in his life? The High Point in my life? The High Point in our lives together?
Posted 30 June 2006 - 12:47 AM
That is great that you finally had someone who didn't mind you talking about Josh! What a wonderful evening.
I not only talk to myself, but answer myself too. And if I sneeze, I say "Bless you" and then say "thank you!". Do ya think I'm getting a little batty?
Hugs to you both,
Posted 30 June 2006 - 06:17 AM
I AVOID driving by my Mom's house, which is sorta difficult as its 1 block in from Main Street, and near an intersection, so I can still see it from a block away. I try driving down other main drags thru town but I sometimes forget as its tough to change 20+ years of driving habits.
What the new owners are doing annoys me.
Answering yourself does not make you batty. Unless the answers make little sense?
Posted 01 July 2006 - 12:11 AM
Posted 02 July 2006 - 07:50 AM
Paul, I drive by Josh's street all the time... but not because I want to! For me it's impossible to head South from where I live without driving by. His steet is a dead end street (sometimes seeing the "DEAD END" sign when I pass his street freaks me out. He lived on High Point which lead to a Dead End) Okay, enough of my craziness.
Posted 03 July 2006 - 12:25 AM
Wow, isn't that wonderful when you get "signs" of someone? I think you are doing so well, being independent (yeah, funny timing!) and going places by yourself, and having it turn out good. As much as I love sharing my feelings with those closest to me and having their help, sometimes being alone is best. I can just be me and think about it all. Keep up the good work!
Chocolate ice cream for dinner.....good idea!
Posted 03 July 2006 - 09:27 AM
I went through something this weekend that was so heart breaking to me.
I was on my way to eat lunch with Billy (my boyfriend I think anyway) and his friend and we were on our way and we stopped at a store so they could get something to drink (beer)and they went into the store I picked up my phone and went to call my MOM......Well the last time I thought Heaven does not take phone calls huh now what I have lost my mind and my heart is crying none stop so now what how doI handle this what do I do. Please someone give me some sort of advice and let me know that I am not going nuts.
Posted 04 July 2006 - 12:18 AM
It's funny you should bring this up right now. Just yesterday my mom and brother and I were all talking about how we still think, "I'll go ask Dad" or "I'll have to tell him about that" and then realize he isn't here to ask or tell. It's been a year and about four months since he died and we are still doing that. So, YOU ARE NOT GOING NUTS!!!!!!!!! We were also talking about how we just still can't believe he's not here. It's normal, so don't worry about it.
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