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I am so sorry for your loss. It is very hard to lose a beloved companion...it's been a year since I lost my granddoggy, Skye. You might not think you could be attached to a dog that belonged to your son, but in this case, he felt like my own...he lived with me off and on, I dogsat him alot, but it was more than just that. Skye was "special", much like a down syndrome child. Simple but very happy. His eyes were completely guileless and gentle. And he loved his grandma! There will never be a day goes by but what I miss him, instead I look out on my back yard where he is buried and I think about him.

You might want to peruse the threads here in this section, there are some valuable links posted by our moderator, Marty. There are also videos of "The Rainbow Bridge". I happen to believe we will be reunited someday and I find comfort in that.

Do you have a picture you could share with us? Any stories you care to share? You will find that the people here are animal lovers and a very caring bunch. It helps to be able to share your feelings and thoughts with others that understand and this is a safe place to do that.

16 years is a very long time for a dog to live, you must have many memories. I lost my husband nine years ago, and I have learned since then that he is still with me, in my heart. I draw from his encouragement and faith and find comfort from that, knowing that the person or dog may die but the love lives on, even as their spirit does.

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Thank you for your knid thoughts I am having a most difficult time with this loss that I had w/ other dogs She was a special creature.

Yes I have some photos My vet says I am blessed to have had her share my life for many good years. It's a huge hole in my heart.

I can't even make it thru' a full day at work this week.

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It is extremely difficult to lose our fur babies. You are in the midst of many pet lovers here and we all understand how difficult this is. Why not post some photos, tell us her name and a bit about her. This link will take you to an article written by Marty Tousley (moderator, grief counselor) and it has several links at the bottom of the article. I have found with grief that reading helps a great deal...i.e. learning more about the grief process. Do come back and if you like, share your photos.

http://www.griefhealingblog.com/2014/09/pet-loss-why-does-it-hurt-so-much.html

I am so sorry for your loss.

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Yes, we all understand that our society as a whole allows about 2 days to grieve and many do not comprehend pet loss. It is sad as it makes an already painful situation more painful and more lonely. But it happens. We all understand here so feel free to share your pain here.

One of my close friends also lost her dog last week and is getting the same responses from people so she comes over and cries here.

We will all look forward to your pictures...

Mary

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I am so very sorry for your loss. You will find that those of us who come here really do understand about pet loss. I wish you were not going through this. And as Mary and Kay said it helps to come here and share feelings and memories. I look forward to your pictures. Our grief will take as long as it takes and no one here judges any behaviors of those who lost a pet.

Anne

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After only three days?! It shows how clueless people can be. I'm sorry you've encountered so much insensitivity. We never stop missing those that we love, we just learn to coexist with it. The intensity does wear off some after a while though, thank heavens, I don't think we could take it if it didn't.

Have you given thought as to how you want to memorialize your dog? Marty posted a link with a lot of helpful suggestions this week.

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Her Name is Bailey. She is a Border Terrier I call her my Brown Beauty. (among many other loving terms)...she came into my life 16 years ago (after the loss of another terrier), We met at a breeder's farm about 1 hour from here. The breeder was going to keep her, after meeting me, they decided to let her live w/ me. Everyone who met Bailey said she is special!!! I remember when I first took her to my vet...he said "She's a real keeper!" I have stayed in touch w/ breeder this whole time. I spoke w/ her late Monday, after this happened. She said that Bailey and I had a wonderful 16 year love affair. And that I was a wonderful MOM. OMG I can't believe I am using past tense.

I will return later on today,,will try for a photo insert

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Good morning,

I was unable to post a picture of Bailey....anyone tell me how?

I am very upset as this will be the first weekend w/o Bailey I don't know what to do w/ myself she was my world..my daily schedule centered on her. When she was feeling better, we went everywhere together.

I have been widowed for many years, with no children, or relatives left....I just went thru' a breakup of a long-time relationship, and Bailey helped me with that, too..so I am LOST

I can bearly make it thru' 1 day at work.

I think there is only 1 thing for me to do and that is open my heart up again to another someone to love and shower....

I am having a difficult time with having to oput a pet to sleep, altho' I have had to do it a couple time before in years past

Oh this hurts so much

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So sorry you are having difficulty with the picture. First, see if it is a jpeg file. Most photos are. The software may take others including pdfs so try what you have.

Go to the lower right hand corner to "More reply options". Click that.

Now you see at the bottom of the window "Attach files"

Click on "browse" and select your picture.

Then click on "attach this file"

Then put your curser in the window and click on "Add to Post" (lower right hand corner.

I hope that works for you.

Try to get out of the house a bit today...it helps in these early days...i.e. walks, shopping, coffee with a friend. I know how difficult these early days especially the upcoming weekend is. So consider planning something out of the house for a while.

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If your pictures aren't jpg you can open them in paint and do a save as jpg.

I'm sorry this leaves you alone. My children are grown and gone, don't see/hear from them much so for all intent and purposes, I am alone too. My BF just moved to TX (I'm in Oregon). My husband died over nine years ago, I tried a couple time since but neither panned out, so I know how it feels. My dog Arlie and my cat Kitty are my life, I also have another cat Miss Mocha but she mostly sleeps, not as interactive. That's the thing, when you get a pet you don't always know what they'll be like. I knew when I saw a picture of Arlie he was meant to be mine, and when I met him it just confirmed it, very alert and happy. I think we connect when it's the right one.

I hope you can have another special someone in your life, when you are ready, you'll know. I'd really like to see a picture of Bailey! I haven't met anyone that had a dog that long, my longest one was 15 years.

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Oh, what an adorable dog! If you click on it, it shows up large. I can see why she stole your heart.

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Thank you! Yes she won a blue ribbon when she was 2 "Best in Show" but after that I never showed her...she was my companion

We did everything together always she even came w/ me on business trips and stayed in the hotel and then in the office while I worked

This is why I am so devastated on her loss......she was my world and I am sick

i can't even feel comfortable in the apt where I took care of her these last 2 years when she really needed me.

I can't fathom she is not here.........

I am going to talk w/ a grief counselor Monday because I know I am so grief stricken......

In a way I want to go to the breeder tomorrow and get a new "Love"..........

I am not doing well

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I think the extent of our grief is impacted the more our lives were intertwined and the more quality of relationship...you had both. Talking with a grief counselor is probably a good idea. I understand your wanting another one right away, but it isn't going to stop the grief for Bailey as they're all different.

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Oh no I won't stop grief for Bailey but there is huge hole in my life altho' I also have a cat who came into my life about 1 year ago it's not the same as a dog.....because I have nothing else...yes..I work but ....

I am too alone Bailey gave me reason to get up everyday,,take her out, walk,,,,,,etc.....

Bailey came into my life soon after I lost another dog named Parsley. She also was 16. and back then my vet said...find someone soon and I did!

I am still feeling awful about being at the emergency vet on Labor day and making that horrible decision. I thought I would die first.

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My dear, I hope you know that there is no right or wrong time for you to take in another dog ~ That decision is totally up to you. When I was a kid, my father had the attitude that as soon as one of our family pets had left us ~ for whatever reason ~ we wasted no time in getting another. He believed in giving all the love we had to give to another animal as soon as possible, and that's what we always did. It never occurred to us that we had to stop missing the animal who was no longer with us; we just opened a new chamber in our hearts, knowing that soon we would come to love the new animal for him- or herself. The point is that you, and only you, live inside your own skin, and you know your own heart better than anyone else. If you believe that you have room in your heart to love another puppy or dog right now, and if you think doing so will help to ease your grief at the loss of Bailey, then go for it. There is no reason for you to wait. We humans are quite capable of dealing with love and loss, all at the same time.

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Thank you. Marty. I am so torn right now. The breeder of Bailey told me to call her anytime I thought I was ready.

Some of my aquaintances will say I am silly to do it yet again...others are saying GO FOR IT......

My life was lonely enough and now its even more lonely! OMG

I don't want to hurt Bailey's memory or her huge comtribution to my life.

It's only been 5 days...and it seems like an eternity already

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A decision to get a dog is, in my opinion, a tribute to Bailey....not something that hurts her memory. There are no rules about the timing and only you can decide but whatever your decision it is yours and it is good. But the fact that you miss her so terribly and want another dog is an honor. You will continue to grieve your loss either way.

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When I lost my sweet Kylie, I thought I'd never get another dog. But eventually, I did and I am so glad I made that decision. Whatever you decide, you should to do it because it's what you want to do. You will know if/when it's time. Making a choice like this based on what other people think is a mistake, if you ask me.

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It isn't going to hurt her memory, it is up to YOU when to get another dog. My remark wasn't about that, I was just warning that it wouldn't stop your grief for Bailey...but as long as you feel you can give another dog what they deserve, they would be blessed. You are obviously a loving and caring pet owner.

When I lost my Lucky girl it was about 2 1/2 months before I got Arlie and i wasn't really looking at that time, he just stood out to me as being "the one" and he was! But I lost my husband the same week I lost Lucky and I was up to my ears trying to deal with it all, I don't think I was ready until I ran across Arlie. He turned out to be the best decision I ever made! He gives me reason to come home, incentive to go on. When the day comes I lose him, I'm sure I'll get another dog and soon, long enough to find the right one, that is. My sister chose not to get any more after she lost hers but I feel like they are kind of depriving themselves because they have a lot of love to give. She just doesn't want to go through that kind of loss again. I guess I'm more of the jump back in the ring again type.

It really has to be about what YOU feel inclined to do. I wish you the best...I think you'll know when you meet the right one.

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It has been 1 week since Bailey left me. I am still very devastated. coming home is awful .

I still think of Awful Labor Day that I brought her to the emergency hospital..never to have her at home again

She was my whole life..I have no kids, family and broke up w/ a long-time boyfriend at Thanksgiving..so Bailey was my everything

I put all my love, energy, and focus on her needs.

I miss her so. We had so much fun together, she was by my side always. I hate this big hole.

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