Mourning On Mother's Day

[maria53577]

hi, as a few of you may know my mom passed away last year on June 27 from alcoholism. This year, Mother's Day is also my dad's birthday.. as this day has been approaching, it's been weighing on him and myself heavily.. I am so concerned for his emotional state on this day.. I have been filled with worry about how the day will go.. I never stopped to think about my own emotional state..

Last night as my fiance and I were driving, I was looking at my Facebook feed.. as friends filled it with posts honoring their mothers.. I started to break down.. it never dawned on me that I would be affected, which doesn't even seem possible.. I was thinking so heavily about my dad that I wasn't concerned with myself.

A flood of emotion came over me as I thought about last year at this time, realizing that she would only be on this earth a little over a month and then be gone.

Truly I am doing good.. I have great support and have been able to keep my spirit afloat.

I want to share my sympathy with others mourning a Mother's Day without their Mom this year.

Hugs to all of you.

[MartyT]

And the same to you, dear one. Always remember that the best way to deal with your father's grief is to take care of your own grief first ~ and that means giving yourself your own time and place to mourn the loss of your precious mother. ♥

[kayc]

My best to you, too! I hope your father is able to enjoy his birthday in spite of the memories and all it con-notates. I'm thinking of my own mom too as Mother's Day fast approaches.

[KATPILOT]

Yes Kay we who have lost their mom's have time to think about them on Mothers Day. This is the first one that I will not have any involvement. I won't be buying flowers, signing a card, and going to brunch. I had grown to think of my step mom as my mother over the last thirty years and having taken care of her for the last four years, brought us closer. I will say her name was Wilma because I want to show her identity as not just my step mom. I like to think I made her happy as I could for those last four years. I will always be grateful for having the time I could talk together with someone about grieving our mutual losses. She never stopped telling me how lucky I was to have had Kathy in my life. They were both women without children of their own. Had Kathy lived beyond me, I have no doubt that my youngest son would have been there for her too.

So like you Kay, now I am thinking of my own mom and though I was only 30 back then, so many memories are starting to come back making me wish I could have done more for her on that special day because without her, I wouldn't be who I am today.

Maria here's hoping for some joy on Sunday. There is something I have noticed of families with love in them, and that is that comfort finds them within a common bond when a loss happens. Even if it's not the most happy birthday for your dad, it will get happier one year soon. Remember that your dad can only be better off by just having you in his life. He will get through this. Somehow, we all do even if we can't see it at first.

Like so many of us who have lost our moms, some sorrow will creep in. I hope we all find a little time to smile as well.