In Your Memory

[Suitearia]

The story that I have attached I initially wrote in 1997 years before I met Ric. I pulled it out last week and looked at it anew. I hope that you like our story.

Preface:

Sometimes the hope of Love seems to exist in a barren desert until a moment of Divine intervention and two people seeking a soul mate; two souls wanting and needing to both love and be loved by another human being, are brought together and an opportunity is born. While at first blush the feeling of new love is joyous and blinding; the time does come when Love isn’t always pretty; when Love isn’t always patient, when Love isn’t always kind and that initial obsession of new love changes into something different.

For LOVE is a merging of two souls, each with their own fear and their own internal pain; both vying to be heard and both needing to be recognized and accepted as they are. Love isn’t a marriage of perfect people whose lives resemble a romance novel. With Divine help, these want-to-be Lovers persevere through those good times, and the bad times too, until one day they realize that their hearts and souls are now one conjoined by a deep abiding LOVE.

The Flower and the Spring (4).pdf

[enna]

Your story is very beautiful, Suzanne. Thank you for sharing it with us. Anne

[Suitearia]

Thank you Anne. I feel like I finished it with Ric over my shoulder watching and reading and reminding me that Spring had a story too.

[KATPILOT]

I was going through another sad time which happens every now when I hit a cluster of triggers. Then I read this Anne. It made me feel a lot better. It speaks to so many of us who waited a lifetime for that special person only to lose them after too short a voyage.

Thank you for sharing this.

Stephen

[Suitearia]

You are welcome ... I'm glad that Flower and Spring's story touched your heart.

[kayc]

I esp. loved you wrote in the preface and agree with that thinking, although in George and my case, ours was like a fairytale. Relationship DOES take effort, however, no matter how beautiful the connection and the beginning.

[Suitearia]

I first saw Ric driving into work. He just happened to get to work at the same time. He was ahead of me in this cute BMW Z3 with the top down. I decided that I needed to meet that man. We just happened to park in the same area of the parking garage but he was just slightly ahead of me. By the time I got to the door to go down the stairs instead of the using the elevator the door shut and I must have made a noise that he heard. He waited at the bottom of the stairs and the rest is history. After that day when he was giving me a sentimental card he'd sign it Doorman and sometimes I'd reply with DoorStopper :-)

[kayc]

Suzanne, that is so cute!

[LadyCarrie]

Dear Suzanne,

Thank you for your beautiful love story as told in your, "The Flower and the Spring." The love story of King Solomon and his Shulamite Girl comes to mind. By God's great love and guidance, I identify and understand.

Blessings,

Carrie

[Suitearia]

Thank you Carrie. It's interesting that you bring up Solomon. I was reading a post and someone said that the felt as if a part of them had been amputated; that those of us in grief were amputees. I don't know why, but that post caused me to think of Solomon and and the two women both claiming the same child as theirs. His solution was to cute the child in half and give each woman a half of the child; but the real mother stood and said no, to let the other woman have the child. As Ric and I were pretty much together 24/7 for many years, I realized that at times I've felt like I've been cut in half; that a whole part of me is gone.

I've been reading a lot lately. I've read the Celestine Prophecy series (before he died Ric said, "what if it's true?). I've read a number of John Holland's books. And I've read how meditation has helped a number of members in the discussion group. So today, I formally did my first attempt at meditation learning to "breathe".

It feels like the right move for me to help heal my heart and my soul and to help me honor Ric's courage through the valley of death by LIVING and living well.

[kayc]

Meditation is wonderful at helping us in all areas of our lives!

[MartyT]

In our Tools for Healing forum, we have a thread entitled which you may find helpful, Suzanne. See also Meditation: Helpful to Those Who Grieve

And just now I came across this piece: 20 Meditation Tips for Beginners

[Suitearia]

I have been in the Meditation forums and visited many of the links and such. I got the clue for walking meditations there as well. I'm a newbie to it but hope that I'm can make it a permanent part of my life. It just feels like that is what I'm supposed to be doing while Ric are I separated ...