Bebekat
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About Bebekat
- Birthday 10/02/1957
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Phoenix, Arizona
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Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
Hospice of the Valley, Phoenix, AZ
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You All Need To Watch This Movie
Bebekat replied to Dusky's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Hey Dusky, I saw "Things We Lost in the Fire" and was surprised at how good it was. I couldn't stop crying (that's a good thing). I especially loved the part when she couldn't sleep so she had him just hold her. I saw it when it first came out on video. I think I would like to see it again. Thanks John! -
Az People
Bebekat replied to missingcharlie's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
I wanted to put out there that if anyone wants to go but doesn't have a ride, I would be glad to pick you up. I live in Central Phx but don't mind driving a little. I have a friend from work that might come with me. I'll try to check the board more often in case anyone needs a ride. -
Az People
Bebekat replied to missingcharlie's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
April 12 is the only Sat I have available that month. Maybe we could figure something for then? Let me know. Kathy -
Az People
Bebekat replied to missingcharlie's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
I have to work on March 22. The other Saturdays are open for me. -
Az People
Bebekat replied to missingcharlie's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Patti, Jan did tell me about your promotion! Congrats girl!! Tori, All of the places you mentioned are really close to my house. I'm open to meeting just about anywhere. My work schedule changes from week to week, so I would have to plan. I would also hope it would be more than the three of us, but I know it is a big step to take. There might be some places in Avondale. Tori would just have to take Indian School, no freeways involved, or I could pick you up. (I am not a psycho, ask Patti) -
Az People
Bebekat replied to missingcharlie's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Hey Patti, Missed you at lunch today. You know I'm open for meeting up with others. Hope some new people respond to your invitation. Tori, I'm in west central Phx also. -
This time of year is always hard. I want to wish all of you a happy new year. As this is my 3rd new year alone, it is a hard road to travel. I wish you all peace.
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Walt, I hope your anniversary was filled with many happy memories.
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You are NOT going crazy, although it might seem like it at times. What you are going through is perfectly normal. Please feel free to post here often. Sometimes it just helps to get it off your chest. Other times it helps to read what others post. You are not alone. We "get it" here. Try to be kind to yourself; get rest and sleep. And just keep taking those "baby steps" I don't post very often, but I do try to at least read the daily posts.
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Thinking Of Dusky Today
Bebekat replied to WaltC's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Dusky, It's hard to believe that two years have gone by. Yet, at the same time it was ages ago. Walt, Missingcharlie, and Dusky, we are all at about the same timeline. It has been a long and bittersweet journey so far. Dusky, you have been such an inspiration to us all. Keep writing. Enjoy your memories. -
Picture Of My Husband
Bebekat replied to missingcharlie's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
What a wonderful picture! A handsome man indeed! Someday I hope to post one of my Tom. Thanks! -
It Sure Doesn't Go Away
Bebekat replied to karenb's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
John, I don't write often. I read and every time your posts bring warmth to my heart. You are able to put into words so many of the feelings I myself have. It is good to hear from you. I wish you well on this long journey. I just passed the 2 year mark since Tom left. Really, it does get better. But also, just when you think you have it under control, it jumps up and slaps you again. -
More Thoughts From Martha Hickman
Bebekat replied to WaltC's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Walt, I will keep you in my thoughts tomorrow. I hope you can find some joy in your memories. -
AnnieO, I don't have the same experience as you. With Tom, we held on to hope until the last week. We decided on hospice at home and he died within a week. He didn't suffer any dementia, so he made all the choices to the end. He was able to maintain his dignity. It was the right thing for us. I feel you should go with your dad's wishes as long as possible, even though you may know the outcome. You should also strive to keep him as comfortable as possible. Hospice can come in at any time with little notice. Only you can know the right choice to make. Yes, you may have to make the choice to stop treatment when he can no longer choose for himself. My prayers are with you in this very hard decision.
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kayc, O how I can to relate to you. I, too, am comming up on two years. In fact, one month from today will be my second sad-anniversary. Lately I also wonder if it wasn't a dream. But then, I realize that if it was a dream, I should have woken up by now. I don't know how I do it , but I get up and go through my daily routines. And then I have a day when I don't cry, so I cry because it makes me fear that I must be forgetting. I dont't know how we do it. We get knocked down with grief and just pick ourselves up again, and again, and again....... Kathy