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jamespinnick

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About jamespinnick

  • Birthday 06/14/1979

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  • Date of Death
    03/30/2009
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    St. Lukes Phoenix

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    http://www.jamespinnick.com

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  • Your gender
    Male
  • Location (city, state)
    Chandler, Arizona
  • Interests
    Golf, Scuba Diving, Movies, Basketball, Football, Concerts
  1. What is something you are looking forward to? This week? This month? Next year? New house? New baby? New job? Vacation? Graduation? Retirement? One of things I’ve been looking forward to is letting my grief slowing disappear. From everything that happened over the course of 2007-2009, I’m at point in my life where I want to look forward instead of looking back. Instead of saying “what if” saying “what now”. I do believe looking forward has three important components to it: •Don’t doubt yourself, use your gut instinct. Meaning that don’t be afraid of yourself. You are your worst enemy. Defeat your doubts and you will become a better person for it. •Pray. When was the last time you talked to your maker? Sometimes I go days without having a relationship with Him but I try my best to know He is always in my heart. •Better days ahead. Whatever you are struggling with, you must trust there are better days ahead. Trust Him. Trust yourself. Trust good things will happen to you….because you might not recognize them when there at your footstep. I started applying for new jobs, developing new websites, spending more time developing my speaking habits, and writing. But something is still missing, like a vacation! Read the entire post at... www.jamespinnick.com Don't want to take up HOV Bandwidth!
  2. Coming up in August, there is a great event called Camp Widow. It's held each year hosted by an organization called Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation, a foundation I'd like to learn and experience more of. "Camp Widow™ is a weekend long gathering of widowed people from across the country, and around the world. We come together to create a community that understands the life altering experience of widowhood. Camp Widow™ provides practical tools, valuable resources, and peer-based encouragement for rebuilding your life in the aftermath of the death of a spouse…all in a fun, uplifting, laughter filled atmosphere." I'd like to go to this years event but I'm not quite sure financially how I would be able to. I am not working and have no income coming in at this time. What I do pray for is an opportunity to visit the event in August and be able to be around others who have experienced the same loss as me, the loss of a spouse. My support group here in town is wonderful but making new life long friends would be awesome and therapeutic. I want to be able to spend time with people who "get me" and have some deep serious conversation about what happened, what has helped me, and share how I have been able to look forward. Camp Widow hosts numerous workshops that are tailored to people "like me". I plan on being attentive, taking notes, and asking questions. I want to learn as much as possible to figure out how I can be the person I want to be after all that has happened. I think I can find that at Camp Widow and the people who will be there. I hope I can make it. It would be a blessing that I would be grateful and thankful for. Is anyone else attending? Also, I'd like to know a place where you would like to visit that would give you some clarity or inspiration in your life?
  3. Grief support groups. Gotta love em’. Never in my wildest dreams would I have told you I would want to attend a group like this. I’m used to be a pretty shutoff valve kind of guy. Shy, distant, and not very social. Things have change. My life has changed. I was mentored for the longest time to come out of my shell. My grief support group happens every Tuesday night at 6:30 local time here in Tempe. It takes place in a room inside the recreation center. It’s kind of funny sometimes because the room we often use, I can see people shooting pool, laughing, and working out on the treadmill or elliptical machine, going up and down. And here we are, talking about depressing stuff while others live their life. But I sit there and listen. I sit there and talk. I feel this is my workout. My elliptical machine. I have to use it in order to feel better, keep myself healthy and sane. This is also where we do “man hugs”. Each time a visitor arrives, we all have to place $1.00 into the Subway Sandwiches big cup. It costs money to rent the room so the money collected is a needed necessity. This past Tuesday, there was a “newbie” there. To protect his identity, I will just say he is weeks out from his wife passing. We go around the room in a clockwise fashion and say our “Challenges” and “Victories” for the week. I was surprised this guy was here. It only happened a few weeks back. It took me almost a year to get to a support group. I give him A LOT of credit. When he was done saying what he had to say, I looked over to my left, and I just kind of did the limited ”man hug” with a hand going to his upper back and patting it a few times, not saying a word. But I hope with my man hug, he knows he’s not alone. Remember, it is hard to do a man hug when sitting down! I remember the man that did my first man hug the first time I said something in this group. Hopefully he will keep going to the groups. I know I will. It keeps me from losing my way… What’s an activity that keeps you from losing your mind?
  4. Brian, James Pinnick here. Nice to meet you. Marty was so kind to share my blog with everyone. You should stop by Tempe Rec Center on Southern + Rural Tuesdays at 6:30pm. It's for spouses only. I've been going and its been pretty awesome considering the circumstances. Hit me up on my blog or swing by the group. It's worth your time. James-
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