MzzButterfly

Spela, Yes, that is exactly what I was talking about. Thanks for the input. One day at a time, Mzz.Butterfly

Grace, your right, others can't imagine how it feels. They don't realize how your heart actually aches from missing them so much. I miss everything about him. He was such a loving, caring good hearted man. He use to say that he didn't know what he would do without me. We had so many plans for our future. It was so unexpected, and he was only 36 years old. Every day just seems to get harder because it seems that the more time that goes by the more I miss him. Somedays I can't beleive this has happened. I am so thankful for the many wonderful people that I have found on here. My thanks to all of you who try to help us through even just for today. Take Care, Mzz.Butterfly

Stoo, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband unexpectedly two and a half months ago. He was my husband, my lover, my best friend. You are not alone here. There are so many wonderful supportive people here that know what you are going through. Please keep coming back. Mzz.Butterfly

I lost my husband unexpectedly nine weeks ago. We would have been married 18 years in June. I too am dealing with "who am I"? It is so hard to spend more then half your life with someone and then in the blink of an eye he is taken away. He could always make me laugh even when I was having a not so good day. Just thinking of him makes me smile. Some days are harder than others. I really don't even know where or how to begin to heal. Right now I feel like I never will. Maybe once I do then I will begin to learn who I am. I am in the process of reading a book right now that is a very good one. It is called How to go on when someone you love dies. It has been helpful to me. Finding this place to come to is wonderful. Hope you keep reading and writing to us. Take Care, Mzz.Butterfly

Derek, I am sorry for your loss as well as everyone else who is on here.This is a wonderful place to come and share with others who are going through the same thing. Sleeping is the worse part. I am getting myself into a support group also. I know that I need to, because I don't know how to face that he is never coming home, even though I know he is gone. It was so unexpected. We had so many plans and he was so young. I miss him so much. Thanks for letting me ramble on. Take care. Mzz.butterfly

All of our lives we hope to find Love that is of the truest kind, Watching the way he looks at you Always treasuring the day you said "I Do". You remember the day when it was all so new Sitting and talking as if the world revolved around just you two At times the sky seemed so blue Never dreaming it would turn to gloom Day after day I remember the special moments. Forgive and forget is what I have done, Only to remember what was inside of my true love Remembering the man he truly was Even though he is gone, a part of him will go on. Very rare was the love we had Everyone may now see what my true love means to me Remember to appreciate what you have, because at any moment your world can turn sad.

My husband passed away two and a half months ago. The grave where he is already had a stone there for his grandmother and his aunt. I knew they were going to be putting his name on it, but when I went there and saw it I was a bit taken back. I had forgotten about this and it just made it feel so final to see his his name with the date on it. Needless to say it was not one of my better days.

I am new here. And very thankful that I came across this site. It is just so unfortunate that we are all experiencing the pain of our loved ones. It has been two and a half months since my husband passed away unexpectedly. I have had people tell me that it gets easier. I have a hard time beleiving that. How can it get easier when it seems like the more time goes by the more you miss them and want to feel safe in their arms just one more time. This month has been a very difficult one for me. His birthday was at the beginning of the month and then there was fathers day, and then just two days ago was our wedding anniversary. That was a very difficult day. I treasure the time I had with him and I am so thankful for the memories and years that we had together. I am constantly on the go trying to keep busy until I go to bed, and even then I can't sleep. My mind never rests either. I think I'm afraid that if I stop then I may crash. It is such a painful loss. There are days when I feel like my heart is broken. Maybe as time goes on the pain lessens? I don't know, but my memories of him will never fade.

It has been two and a half months since my husband passed away, so I don't have an answer for you as to how long it goes on for. I too know that I am avoiding things by keeping busy. I think I'm afraid if I stop then I may crash. I am so thankful that I came across this sight. Take care. mzzButterfly