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About enna

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    Advanced Member
  • Birthday 12/05/1942

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  • Location (city, state)
    Goodyear, AZ
  • Interests
    an active member of Hospice of America, level two certified volunteer as an end-of-life doula

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  • Your relationship to the individual who died
  • Date of Death
    May 25, 2012
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    Hospice of the Valley - Phoenix
  1. This video was created to remember a special little angel that touched so many of our lives. It was my gift to Butch and his family and he asked if I would share it with this forum family. Some of the pictures he shared on the forum and others he sent to Kay and me over the year since Gracie’s birth. We continue to mourn with Butch and his family. Thank you, Marty, for this safe place we have to come to.
  2. i think i need some help

    I am sorry for the loss of your mom. I am glad that you are better now and that you have a great job and a great family. Holidays are always hard. In my case, the pain of loss will always be there just not as intense. The way I have dealt with the loss of my mother is to prepare one of her favorite dishes for a holiday dinner. Now that I have grandchildren we bake some of her famous cookies and make popcorn balls during Halloween ~ a favorite holiday of my mother’s. My grandchildren never met their grandmothers for they were deceased. Over the years I have found that if you share memories with other family members it eases the pain of our loved one not being with us. Sadness is something that is present when we have lost someone we love.
  3. To our forum family, Kay and I received news tonight that Butch’s granddaughter, Gracie, passed away on Monday. Gracie’s precious life was short lived but she had a smile that melted most of our hearts. Butch is not able to come on right now but he knows that you would want to be informed. It is beyond my understanding why so many of Butch’s family members have been taken away from him. For those of us who have known Butch our hearts ache for all he has been through. Grief cannot be solitary so those who wish let us gather around and let the family know we are with them and we will not let them go through this alone. It has been our way of doing things and will continue to be this way. No one goes through this alone. We are here for each other. Anne
  4. Hello New To Site

    Hello Celeste, Welcome to this special place where we share our thoughts without any judgment. I am very sorry that you lost your mother in 2016 after a beautiful 92 years on this earth. Your daughter’s success at being clean from drug addiction is deserving of a big shout out. It is no wonder that these two major concerns in your life have taken a toll on you. It is time for you to give yourself a gift. The gift I’m thinking about is self-care. Emotions and feelings do not last forever. I can understand your concern about your brother. Is he all right now? I am not familiar with the techniques outlined in DARE that you mentioned but it sounds like a place to start. Spend some time here and read what others have written. You are not alone and this place proves it. The people who come here are very empathic and help us know we are not alone. Tears are good. They have a way of releasing some tension we all have when we face loss. I hope you have had a health check-up just to make sure you are in good health. You have already found this place and it is a place that will always be ready to listen. I like guided meditations - sharing Anne
  5. It is time, Butch. A beautiful black & white of mommy and Ryan. The yawn is too precious. Finally, good news for the family. Anne
  6. The above discussion was excellent and will replay again if you missed it. If you haven't read Dr. Ira Byock's book Dying Well it would be well worth it. There is a discussion guide provided by Dr. Karen Wyatt (above) if you are interested in a book discussion. Dr. Karen will give a link to the replay soon.
  7. I like TED talks on YouTube. This video I’m sharing really touched me. This young girl talks about being resilient in times of great loss. I am not young and at the age of almost 75, I am still learning about what we can do when our lives are turned upside down. I hope the video helps just one person who is struggling ~ allow ten minutes. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ztnn8W4qE2o
  8. Significant Quotes

    This is grief ~ no matter the loss...
  9. Funnies: Things That Make Us Laugh

    A man was telling his neighbor, 'I just bought a new hearing aid. It cost me four thousand dollars, but it's state of the art. It's perfect.' 'Really,' answered the neighbor. 'What kind is it?' 'Twelve thirty.' Hospital regulations require a wheel chair for patients being discharged. However, while working as a student nurse, I found one elderly gentleman already dressed and sitting on the bed with a suitcase at his feet, who insisted he didn't need my help to leave the hospital. After a chat about rules being rules, he reluctantly let me wheel him to the elevator. On the way down I asked him if his wife was meeting him. 'I don't know,' he said. 'She's still upstairs in the bathroom changing out of her hospital gown.'