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triplethreat

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  • Date of Death
    june 2012
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
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    Female
  • Location (city, state)
    new york, new york
  1. Thank you for your kind words!! The problem is- she is doing other business (involving real estate and who knows what)with the same lawyer who is handling the estate- and if I decided to take legal action against her- then I would be loosing everything I inherited on lawyer bills- to not really gain anything. I Could have also gone that route with being kicked out of my house- I could have held the sale up in court for years- but I would have just prolonged moving to an apartment and wasted all my savings. I've only recently realized that not only have I used drugs and alcohol as coping mechanisms...but also sex and love. and that I have been a part of many unhealthy relationships. And that I can't continue filling the void with these things, because it is getting me no where. I received government benefits like medicaid and foodstamps for years- but I inherited assets that make me no longer eligable. I have been looking into affordable health care, but it is hard to get all the documents together while I'm in school and working. Again, thank yoou!
  2. I turned 24 a few weeks ago. Usually I make a big deal about my birthday and plan something with my friends, but this year was different. It was my first birthday, first valentines day, first new years, first christmas and thanksgiving without my stepfather. He died of cancer in june, I took care of him. He was more than a father to me- he was a superhero. When I was 12 my mother was diagnosed with cancer- he married her 5 days later and promised to take care of her, my brother, and myself no matter what happened. She died when I was 17, a few months before I graduated high school. I continued to drink and take pills to deal with my pain. I created a lot of art work as well. I also now realize I began submitting myself to unhealthy relationships, in search of love that the other could never give me. Two years later the homicide department knocked on my door. These officers sat me down to tell me my real father had killed himself. My heart shattered. He had been unemployed and battled with his own depression and money problems. I'm not sure I ever really dealt with this loss. until now at least. Over the summer, when I became a caretaker for my sick stepfather, I prayed to my dead loved ones, for strength to get through another day. It was so taxing. so stressful and unusual for me. After he died, my whole turned upside down. Not only was I taking on -all at once- a whole swarm of responsibility i never had- to pay bills and watch over myself... A few months of living in my childhood home- my aunt, the homeowner- essentially kicked me out. Told me they were going to sell my house this spring and my drunk uncle was coming over everyday to tear apart the floors and paint. I had to move. and I did. I've lost my health insurance recently. another obstacle for me. The executor of my stepfather's will has shown her true colors- and made it clear that she is neither a good person or a part of my family any longer. I'm not sure where to get the help I need, within the low budget i have. I need support-from real people.
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