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That must be really hard to know that the staff where your Mom was didn't respond the way they should have. That is really awful. And you are young to have experienced so many deaths all in a short amount of time. I went to a grief support group and that was really helpful. It was just for people who had lost parents. No matter what the exact story was, you could really see that we had plenty in common. Sorry to hear about your losses. This is hard stuff, no doubt about it.

Both my parents died this year within a few months of each other. I am feeling pretty disconnected as I was the only one of my siblings (there are 2 others) who cried during the holidays. Yes, my parents were pretty elderly (88) but it is just hard to see them go. Everyone is the family keeps a pretty tight lid on emotions; frankly that came from my parents and its not always healthy. My middle sister all along has been the one person disputing any splitting of money. (my parents left a sizeable chunk). First it was that she wanted all kind of work done on my parent's house, with their money while her son was renting it. Parents had moved to a senior living apartment and we knew could not return. So that was a big dispute even though the other sibling and I tried to point out they were just renting it; no home improvements projects were warranted. Then, when the house sold she wanted her son to get a bargain. Now they both my parents are gone, she is the executor of the will. Many years ago she borrowed money from my parents, paying it back with interest and all along the plan was that she would take the debt out of her share of the estate. That was always the plan, discussed verbally but not on paper (I know, bad idea). Let's say she borrowed $30K. Instead of paying each sibling back she now thinks she should get a third of the $30K herself since "its part of the estate". Her tax person told her this was the thing to do and she is trying to push it through. I told her I don't agree and she is accusing me of "questioning her honesty". Frankly she is just so aggressive about the money thing that I trust her less and less. If it's for her or her kids, she is just kind of nasty and huffy about the whole thing. And not like she is in great need of money. So is this grief disguised? Old family drama playing out? Or is this just greed pure and simple? Thanks for the advice!

So sorry to hear about such an early loss of your mom. Mine died 2 months ago and I found myself saying the same kind of things. "I want my mom" - and I'm 55 years old. Miss her a ton.

Seeing a counselor has been a good move several times in my life. They just facilitate you to find the answers you have in yourself; it really is not all that threatening. I've heard the most important aspect of counseling is that you feel comfortable and like the counselor, that it's a good fit.