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amstcole

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  • Date of Death
    08/05/2015
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    Glenoma, WA

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  1. I'm sorry for your loss...i'm in my 3rd round of holidays and it is hard b/c i'm usually alone...don't even have the spirit to decorate anymore b/c its just me...anyway, have you checked out Griefshare.com...they have a program on how to survive the holidays...it helped me that first year...
  2. I'm sorry for your loss...my husband passed a little over 2 years ago - throughout most of our nearly 8 year marriage, he had complications from diabetes...i was his caregiver for the last few years of his life...I too sometimes feel like i failed him - that maybe he would still be alive but he was ready...the disease was taking too much from him. what helped me was a support group like griefshare...contact your local hospital or hospice group for a support group. As for the ashes, you can get a necklace made of them so he'll always be close...anyway, praying for you.
  3. I'm sorry this happened toyou - you don't have closure. I suggest a support group and/or counseling...maybe you can do a memorial for him for you to have that closure.
  4. so you weren't notified? He just sort of disappeared until you saw the obit? I'm sorry...
  5. I am sorry for your loss...tomorrow mark's 2 years and 2 mos since i lost my husband...i had warning and a chance to say good bye so i don't understand it happening suddenly - oh, he was only 52. Talking about it and sharing has helped. The pain and grief is normal too...Plus joining a group like griefshare when you are ready helped me. Anyway, praying for you and i'm here if you need a listening ear.
  6. Hello, have you been to a grief support group like grief share? If not, i would suggest you find a way to re-arrange your busy life and slow down...what's important and not important? What is important is your health...in grief share, they mention that you need to take care of yourself...oh, i somewhat understand your pain- i was a caregiver to my husband for many years before he passed a little over two years...anyway, praying for you.
  7. Since you don't want suggestions - though i have quite a few - i'm just going to send a virtual hug and prayers for you...anyway, just one suggestion -have you considered switching doctors?
  8. What beautiful thoughts...i too still get scatterbrained at times esp when thinking about him. I've learned to do things like set 2 timers, etc. to prevent things like flooding my trailer again and so on...
  9. I am sorry for your loss...i became a widow just a few months before my 47th birthday...almost 2 years ago...his death was expected so it wasn't sudden...anyway, I still miss him..but eventually, at least for me, it gets better. Just keep in mind we do grieve differently. Doing what you are doing will help...your feelings about this are normal. Anyway, praying for you...
  10. you mentioned you're religious? Did you know that a relationship with Jesus is more than religion? that its about a relationship with Him, who you matter to...anyway, praying for your health and that you find peace...
  11. I totally understood...I lost my husband almost 22 mos ago...there are things i regret. What helped me get past that was attending a griefshare.org meeting...since the regrets were destroying me. i should've loved him more- and now that he's gone, i really loved and miss him. so its been a struggle.. Anyway, praying for you...
  12. Hi there, sorry you are experiencing this...my abusive ex made life miserable in my new marriage until i finally ignored him but my late husband was understanding like your partner. Anyway, maybe join a support group like griefshare.org? I also found myself and developed a new me after divorce from my ex with prayer. Triggers are normal and will happen...I still have them with my ex after 15 years since the divorce esp since we share a son but they are getting better..anyway, praying for you...
  13. Hi there, i am sorry you are experiencing this and your feelings are normal...I haven't lost a mom and we don't have the best relationship but i try with her;however, i did lose a husband with some regrets. Wondering if i was always the best wife for him. What has helped me is talking to people...does your husband know what you are going through and your feelings? Plus I've also joined a support group like griefshare.org...plus helpful articles as posted by other responders...nyway, praying for you..
  14. You have had it rough…over a year ago, I lost my husband to a long illness and since then, or even before, I have lost acquaintances, relatives, and even friends of friends to death…plus I moved away from the home where we lived together. Like you, I’m an artist and a writer so I’ve buried myself in my writing…it has been therapeutic. I’ve also become involved in helping other people through volunteer opportunities…so, perhaps, since you sound creative, you can journal your losses…plus possibly join organizations like griefshare.org or other support groups that help you through the grief process.
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