BLewis113

So this is an update to another post I made on here. To sum up the other one i made. My now ex girlfriend wanted a break after hearing news that her grandmother in South Korea got extremely ill and was hospitalized. After her grandmother was discharged and fine, me and her picked up where we left off and continued our relationship. So now is the new situation. Just a few days ago, right before Thanksgiving my ex girlfriend texted me saying that she doesn't think she's in love with me anymore and her feelings are gone. She told me she's just not happy in the relationship and that we can't go on. I talked to her wanting an explanation and all she could tell me was her romantic feelings for me just fell apart. Last thing she told me was that she did love me, she loved me a lot but this was a process and that she needed to ''find herself'' first. I was so angry and heartbroken that I left it at that and we didn't talk for a few days until me being an idiot made the stupid choice to contact her last night. I didn't bring up our relationship or the break up, I simply just wanted to know how she was feeling and what was happening in her life. She was extremely short with me and doesn't want to talk for a while. This hurt me bad, and I feel like she resents me now. A bit of drama has sparked but i'm trying to keep it under control. After our break up one of her friends started talking to me. she hasn't tried anything or hasn't even flirted with me, she just talks to me and is trying to cheer me up. Then my ex's other friend contacted me, she told me that my ex got very upset after finding out her friend was talking to me and became suspicious. Not going to lie it made me feel a little good knowing that she does still have some love for me. I hope? Her friend then told me that I should be patient and just give her time, she also guaranteed me that there is no other guy and that my ex simply just doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment. I just don't know what to do or think. Just a few days prior to the breakup we were doing great. She was happy, laughing and smiling the last time we were together. Told me repeatedly that she loved me and smiled and blushed each time I looked at her. She seemed like she was in love with me. But just out of the blue her feelings are gone? Any advice would help!

It is frightening. I'm happy to hear how you pulled through and how others have managed to get through these situations. I think me and my girlfriend will be talking tonight. So hopefully some progress will be made. I hope your sister gets well soon!

So a little bit of an update. She told me her grandmother is in stable condition and will be released from the hospital tomorrow. She told me that she is very relieved and is in a very good mood. I'm so happy things are starting to somewhat look better. I will continue giving her space and wait to see what she'll want to do. I also spent an hour or so reading through others experiences, including yours Kayc. I'm very sorry that happened to you, you're a very strong person. But as I was reading all of these, all the relationships came to end and never worked. Has anyone's relationship ever worked through something like this? or does anyone know someone who's relationship kept going? Would really like to know.

I came across this site and saw many people have similar experiences and saw many give great advice. So I decided to make an account and share my experience and hopefully get some advice because I feel like i'm going crazy. So last week my girlfriend came to me and she told me that we should take a break from our relationship. My heart sank and I asked her why. She told me it had nothing to do with me or the relationship and the reason she wants this is because her grandmother in South Korea is extremely ill. Not only did this news hit her emotionally but she didn't know whether she would have to move back to Korea or not and she felt that if she did have to go then we would be over. I mean I completely understand why she wanted the break. She told me that the break was to hopefully soften the blow in case she had to go. On thursday she came to me with news and said she made the decision to stay. She was crying and was very upset about her choice and we talked all night. She told me that she thought of me all the time during our break and that she does want to continue our relationship when she feels better. She told me that she needed me and she still loves me but she wants to continue our break for about a week. It felt good to hear her say all that but I hate that she is going through this... During our break she said that she wants her independence and for us to be a little distant. No ''I love you'' or calling each other ''babe/baby''. I'm still a little bit confused on why this is since she wants to be together after all this. And at times I feel like she doesn't love me anymore, but I'm trying not to think about that and I want to give her time. We talked again last night and she seemed a little more distant but she still told me she wants to be with me, she just wants time to go through her emotions. I told her that she can take all the time she wants and that i'll be there for her. I really love her and I hate seeing her like this and I just hope things go well. Am I thinking to much into this? Should I worry? Any advice will help.