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lovingladyo4

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  1. I don't know your friend, but my guess is that she may be feeling so depleted and broken on the inside and is vacillating on how to stay afloat. Chemo and radiation are enemies to the human body, and along with the cancer, she may have lost her momentum to fight the fight. If you are concerned, send her notes everyday. "Talk" to her through written words and express your love to her that way. I know it's not the kind of communication you desire to have, but your words will still reach the part of her heart enough for her to know your genuine care and concern. Do you feel the freedom to ask her how you can be helping the most? Can you sit with her and read? Play music? Hold her hand? Give her foot rubs? Prepare food? Clean her house? Maybe you can include this in one of the notes you send her and include your phone number. She is in such a low place right now and may be uncertain of what to do. I am sure your presence and concern speaks volumes to her. It's just a matter of finding out the "when" and "how often". She is facing a giant and needs to figure out how to navigate through the turmoil. Pray for her everyday. Pray and ask God to lead you and guide you on what to do. You seem like a sensitive and caring person and you want to reach out in any way you can. Keep sending her messages. Your love for her will be a comfort.
  2. What a beautiful and touching tribute you give to your dad! Not only was he a remarkable person, but he impacted your life in a way that has shaped you into the person you are today. You have much to be thankful for! I don't know if the smartest and most intellectual of all human beings that ever lived can grasp the totality of what death means and why it is a fact of life. But God does share with us in his word that he created us because he wants to share an eternal relationship with us. Because of that we can look at our lifetime here on earth as a journey toward reaching that goal. And yet that explanation doesn't remove the pain a person will feel from the loss of a loved one. Even those who love God and believe in his saving grace, still grapple with why death must be a part of our reality. It's moments like this when we need to press in to God and trust in His unfailing love and compassion for us. Do you have frequent opportunities to talk with someone about your feelings? I hope there are those who can listen and be there for you. It's ok to experience the pain of grief because it's a deep and complicated process and mourning can take a long time to work itself out. Talking helps release the pressures and uncertainties that surround loss, and crying will help do that too. And please try to take care of yourself too. As hard as it might be, getting rest, exercise, and recreation will propel you to move forward. I would be willing to bet your dad would find great joy in knowing you are still embracing life as a gift, and would want to continue cherishing every second you have. Here is something I would like to pass along to you. It is my hope and prayer it ministers to your heart in a very special way. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYpnWx9gnZs
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