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MartyT

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About MartyT

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    Grief Counselor
  • Birthday 02/10/1943

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    http://www.griefhealing.com
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  • Your gender
    Female
  • Location (city, state)
    Sarasota, Florida

Previous Fields

  • Your relationship to the individual who died
    mother, daughter, friend
  • Date of Death
    5/26/67, 9/3078,10/06/93
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    NA

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  1. Healing

    Clearly your Tammy is your guardian angel, Mitch! This is not the first time you've had a close call like this, either! I am grateful that you're okay! ♥
  2. Hello New To Site

    My heart reaches out to you in your pain, my dear. I'm afraid there are no "fixes" for the grief you're feeling in the wake of your father's death. As our friend and colleague Megan Devine has often said, grief is not a problem to be solved. It's an experience to be supported, witnessed and held. We are here to do just that for one another, and we are here for you as well. I invite you to read this article, in hopes that it will speak to you in a helpful way: In Grief: After Caregiving Ends, Who Am I?
  3. I'm glad to know that your amazing brother is doing this for you, Tom, and I hope that as your family and friends acknowledge your birthday, you can feel the love they have for you. What a lovely idea to use your birthday celebration as an opportunity to present some of Susan's jewelry as gifts to those who knew and loved her too ~ it's a beautiful way to pay tribute to your beloved, and to keep her memory alive. ♥
  4. Articles Worth Reading

    Posted by Teresa TL Bruce on her blog today, 09/18/2017 The Seven-Year Glitch: When Grieving Gets Easier It — That Day — snuck up on me this year. Granted, I’ve had a lot on my mind the last month: Waiting for the birth of my first grandchild in another state Helping my daughter recover from the birth of her daughter Rushing home to prepare my house for Hurricane Irma’s attack on my state Cleaning up after Irma smacked Florida up one side, across the middle, and up the other side as well Juggling the usual stuff — editing, writing, paying bills, tending to family needs … Some residents displayed humor in the aftermath of massive cleanup following Hurricane Irma. In worse-hit areas, there’s not much to laugh about as residents try to reassemble their lives. (photo by Teresa TL Bruce, TealAshes.com) So it makes sense that I felt distracted while attempting to work last week. I missed my precious baby granddaughter (and her parents) while I dealt with Irma issues. Even so, I’m usually better able to tune out distractions while polishing prose — whether my clients’ or my own. As that long, long week drew to an end, realization hit me. All at once, I understood what kept my attention blowing aside, why my mind felt muddled, where the eye of my inner storm hit a wall: In a handful of days I would complete my seventh year as a widow. I once again faced the anniversary of my husband’s unexpected death. Read on here >>>
  5. Goodbye to my fur family

    I'm so sorry to learn this sad news about your beloved Kachina, Marita. Such a huge loss. You are in my heart . . . ♥
  6. George, my dear, I admire your grace and maturity in how you've chosen to handle this situation, as you continue to honor this man as your father. I know it must feel terribly unjust and unfair that your dad chooses to see things this way ~ but in a way it's an indication of your father's recognizing and acknowledging you as the son he raised to be strong, independent and capable of standing on his own two feet. On some level, he must be very proud of the man you have become, and I hope you can take some pride and satisfaction in that. I hope too that you will keep your sense of humor and hold on to that very positive attitude of yours. You are an inspiration, and I so admire you for that. ♥
  7. How do i go on

    My heart hurts for you, my dear, as I read your tragic story of losing your beloved Rainy in such a traumatic way. Happening as it did in the wake of losing your mother must be horrible for you. I am so sorry! I hope this article will offer some useful suggestions ~ and please know that I am thinking of you and your fur baby, hoping for the best: Pet Loss: When Your Pet Goes Missing ♥
  8. I accidentally killed my beloved pet.

    I'm so sorry to learn of the accident that caused the death of your cat, and I hope you will take some time to read through some of the many posts in this forum to see that you are not alone. As animal lovers, we don't intend to bring harm to our precious pets, but the harsh reality is that sometimes, accidents do happen ~ and we are left to deal with the pain of loss and the heavy guilt that follows. I invite you to read this article, and I hope you will take its suggestions to heart: Grief and The Burden of Guilt. Notice, too, the Related Articles and Resources listed at the base, including A Dangerous Villain: Guilt.
  9. REMEMBERING THE ‘LASTS’ Written by Jennifer Stern on Wednesday, September 13, 2017 The last words spoken. The last touch. The last meal shared. The last laugh. The last show watched. The lasts…moments and interactions that would otherwise go unnoticed in everyday life now sacred. Memories that, when lucky, we wish to bottle and protectively hold on a shelf. Untouched for eternity. Never dimmed. Never forgotten. Accessible to us, for us, always. Remembering those lasts can at times feel unbearable, oppressive, truly unendurable. IF ONLY I HAD KNOWN, I would have…I could have…I should have…. The magical thinking of grief and loss. Don’t get stuck there. In time, when the bevy of overwhelming emotions that paralyze us in grief, coming in relentless waves, slows there will be space for the memories. When remembering the time when….makes you smile instead of bringing you to your knees. Read on here >>>
  10. Gracie

    We're all mourning your darling Gracie with you, Butch. She belongs to all of us ♥
  11. Free Webinar: Afterlife Contacts and Signs Join Dr. Heidi and Dr. Gloria Horsley with special guest Chris Duminiak as the discuss afterlife contacts and signs. Christine Duminiak is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, radio co-host, Member of National Alliance for Grieving Children and Founder of Prayer Wave for After-Death Communication. You are invited to a Zoom webinar. When: Sep 18, 2017 5:00 PM Mountain Standard Time (US and Canada) Topic: Free Webinar: Afterlife Contacts and Signs Register in advance for this webinar: Register Today, Space is Limited After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the webinar.
  12. This just in from Nan Zastrow: What do you think? Looking for feedback for our Fall ELetter From: Nan Zastrow <nan.wings1@gmail.com> Date: Thu, Sep 14, 2017 3:59 pm We'd love to hear from you regarding the question below. Please respond by email and limit you response to a couple short paragraphs. Include your name, city, state. Your last name will not be published. Linking objects are items that belonged to our loved one which are very precious to us either for the story connected with them or for our emotional connection to them. If you could choose one keepsake of your loved one, what would it be and why would you choose that? Email for : Nan & Gary Zastrow and the founders of: Wings--a Grief Education Ministry Visit Wings on FACEBOOK website: wingsgrief.org
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