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MartyT

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About MartyT

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    Grief Counselor
  • Birthday 02/10/1943

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    tousleym
  • Website URL
    http://www.griefhealing.com
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    martytousley

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  • Your gender
    Female
  • Location (city, state)
    Sarasota, Florida

Previous Fields

  • Your relationship to the individual who died
    mother, daughter, friend
  • Date of Death
    5/26/67, 9/3078,10/06/93
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    NA

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  1. I am a transgender

    My friend, you don't say how old you are, which would be my first concern as you make this important life decision. You ask if you'll regret having this surgery, and without knowing you and your individual circumstances, I wouldn't presume to offer my advice. You say you have a lot of questions in your mind, and it seems to me that no surgeon would offer this procedure without first making certain that those questions have been addressed ~ and then pointing you to resources and support groups specifically designed to do just that. That said, I agree with Kay's response. Since you have access to the Internet, you would do well to do go online to find information and resources that are relevant to you. For example, having clicked on the link you provided in your post, I see that a Patient Resources section is provided, and that might be a good place to start.
  2. How utterly horrible for everyone concerned, Pixie. I'm so sorry
  3. Lainey, dear one, my heart hurts for you. Life can be so very unfair ~ so difficult for us mortals to even begin to understand, much less accept. It's good to know that you've found your way back here to us, but I'm so sorry for the reason that brought you here ~ again. Even though we have no explanations, no solutions, no answers, and no cures, most certainly we share in your pain, and we are touching your wounds with gentle and tender hands.
  4. One year later

    Lots of relevant resources are attached to the base of this article, if you are interested: In Grief: Mourning The Loss of a Friend
  5. Yes, Butch. Exactly. ♥
  6. I pray for the day, dear Tom, when those precious memories bring you comfort and warmth instead of sorrow and pain. ♥
  7. My friend, I cannot say it any better than Kay just did. I hope you will feel welcome here, as you find yourself among kindred spirits. We often say here that grief is better dealt with when it is shared, and no one will understand what you are thinking and feeling more than those who've experienced a loss that is similar to your own. Your fellow widows and widowers are your best source of support. It also helps, I believe, to learn all you can about what is normal (and therefore to be expected) in grief, so you'll feel less "crazy" and alone in your reactions. As you come to know us here, you'll find lots of useful information and suggestions for coping too. As the saying goes, you can take what is worth keeping, discover what does and does not work for you, and let the rest of it go by.
  8. From our hearts to yours, dear Butch, with gratitude to e e cummings: i carry your heart with me(i carry it in my heart)i am never without it(anywhere i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done by only me is your doing,my darling) i fear no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true) and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant and whatever a sun will always sing is you here is the deepest secret nobody knows (here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows higher than soul can hope or mind can hide) and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)
  9. Seems as if someone was sending you a very timely message, dear Maryann ♥
  10. Lyrics When God calls me home And my soul is laid to rest That won't mean I'm gone Darling, heaven knows I'll love you just the same So, don't you feel alone You may cry a tear or two and that's okay Just know I'll never be too far away I'll be sleeping in the stars Shining through the dark Watching, smiling, singing out into silence Everywhere you are I'll be sleeping in the stars Some steps that we take Leave an everlasting mark Even death can't take away So, if you're missing me Just look inside your heart And let the memories play You may cry a tear or two and that's okay Look up and know I'm not that far away I'll be sleeping in the stars Shining through the dark Watching, smiling, singing out in the silence Everywhere you are I'll be sleeping in the stars I'll be sleeping in the stars Shining through the dark Watching, smiling, singing out into silence Everywhere you are I'll be sleeping in the stars Everywhere you are I'll be sleeping in the stars Written by Gareth John Owen Dunlop, Jaida Dreyer, Mark Irwin Abramson • Copyright © Universal Music Publishing Group, Ole Media Management Lp
  11. You are more than welcome, dear Gabbie ~ and I, for one, will be thinking of you and your son on his special day (as you continue to sing his song) ♥
  12. Significant Quotes

    Sharing this beautiful message just received from our dear friend and colleague, Peggy Haymes: Dear Marty, This fall, with the leadership of Chelsy Mitchell, the Novant Health Chaplains created our own version of the lovingkindness blessing. I have this blessing over my desk at the hospital, and have started the spiritual practice of focusing on one line each day. That line become my mantra, and I repeat it as I go about my day. It has become incredibly meaningful for me. I share it with you with the hopes that you may also find meaning and spiritual practice. May your way be delighted with unexpected blessings this season. Peggy May I be present May I know deep in my heart and bones that I am enough May I be a vessel of God's Spirit May I create space for healing, hope, and pause May I be a blessing May I creatively lean into the wild and precious life May I be joyous May the wisdom of God be with me May I truly rest May I be filled so I can pour myself out for others May I understand how much I am loved May I find Sabbath, Shabbat, and Shalom May I have more love May I find badly needed peace and healing May I bask in the glow of God's love May I live with authenticity and vulnerability May I be at peace with others *************************************** May you be present May you know deep in your heart and bones that you are enough May you be a vessel of God's Spirit May you create space for healing, hope, and pause May you be a blessing May you creatively lean into the wild and precious life May you be joyous May the wisdom of God be with you May you truly rest May you be filled so you can pour yourself out for others May you understand how much you am loved May you find Sabbath, Shabbat, and Shalom May you have more love May you find badly needed peace and healing May you bask in the glow of God's love May you live with authenticity and vulnerability May you be at peace with others ************************************** May all beings be present May all beings know deep in their heart and bones that they are enough May all beings be a vessel of God's Spirit May all beings create space for healing, hope, and pause May all beings be a blessing May all beings creatively lean into the wild and precious life May all beings be joyous May the wisdom of God be with all beings May all beings truly rest May all beings be filled so they can pour themselves out for others May all beings understand how much they am loved May all beings find Sabbath, Shabbat, and Shalom May all beings have more love May all beings find badly needed peace and healing May all beings bask in the glow of God's love May all beings live with authenticity and vulnerability May all beings be at peace with others
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