Carol, I am terribly sorry to hear of the loss of your sister. It must be a terrible time in your life for you and your family. Your sister is in a better place now and no longer is dealing with pain of her disease. However you,her children and the rest of your family must deal with the pain of knowing she is no longer with you. I ,also, have a loss- a totally different one. I lost my daughter on May 18-preterm labor. I was 22 weeks and was diangnosed with an incompetent cervix. I was totally terrified and all alone when this happened (my husband got called into work) and I didn't know what to do. I don't know were I got the strength to call 911, while holding my precious baby in my arms, but I did. It did not look good, she was born alive but her hear rate dropped drastically. She only lived for 4 1/2 hours. They cleaned her up and gave her to me to hold. I held her in my arms, and watched her gasping every 2-3 minutes for breath. I felt like I was dying myself,my husband was also able to hold her before she died- so that gave us some comfort. They then took her up to NICU, and I went up to my room. At 8AM,the pediatrician came in and told me she had died at 6:37, and asked if I wanted them to bring her into me. God gave me the strength to bond with my baby,even though she was gone. I treasure the hours I held her, and hold onto my memories of her. I buried her with all of the other babies in the catholic cemetery by me, and I know she is watching over me every single day. That,however, does not stop the tears that fall every single day. We baptized her and name her Julianna Francesca. Carol, remeber your sister and allow your tears to flow. For she is now in a better place and is no longer in pain. Please be strong ,if not for yourself-for her children. They have lost their mother, and they must be struggling just as much as you are. Just remember all of the good times you spent with her growing up together, and that will give you the strength to go on. Email me anytime you want to vent out. I have found it is the best to talk to people, sometimes total stranges sympathize and understand better than anyone else. For me it is very much true. Michelles