lorikelly Posted January 18, 2007 Report Share Posted January 18, 2007 we are thinking about going to disney in the summer at the end of june and be there around my moms death anniversay. my husband thinks it will be good for me to be busy during this time. i am not sure how i feel about it. anyway have a great time. enjoy yourself you deserve it. lori Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted January 28, 2007 Author Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 Hi All,I am emailing you All to tell you that I am back at home and I made it through the eight days... I cried a little at first on the plane but I just told people I had something in my eyes... The first six days we all stayed together eventhough my brother in law really did not like it my sister told him that she wanted me to have a good time.... The last two days we broke up and did our own think and it was okay because It being my first time I saw things I wanted to see and the things they had all ready saw.... I also loved getting my picture taken with all the charcters which they had done many times before.... Except for the flight home It was a truly amazing time and being stuck with my brother in law went okay with only a few problems.... He even bought me a tropical drink too... The flight home was a little too warm and we took off one hour later than first planned and that meant we arrived one hour later and than it was snowing in Toronto so we were slow getting off the plane and the luggage seemed to take forever to getting to us... It ended up making us arrive in our house at 2am in the morning instead of midnight... My neice was ill coming home and the two boys slept most of the way... So I am so glad to be home again but I am so glad!!!!! I did go.... Thanks to all of you for your prayers and good wishes Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoriS. Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 I'm so glad that you had a good time! See? You did it!!! You should be ever so proud of yourself!Takd care...Lori Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trudy1964 Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 Shelley,I'm so glad you had a good time. I thought about you many times this passed week. I live in South Louisiana. We had nothing but rain. I hope you had better weather than us. I'm glad you found a way to enjoy it with the jerk. With all our prayers going your way from this site, you were bound to have a GREAT time.Trudy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shell Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 Shelley,I am so thrilled that you had a good time! Give yourself a huge pat on the back. Like LoriS said, you should be proud of yourself! Way to go! Glad you are back home safe and sound!Hugs,Shell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lorikelly Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 So happy you had a good time, you needed to get away. Disney is a great place to be can't help but be happy and smile. the weather here in jersey is cold and yucky. glad that you are safe and home. Lori Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted January 29, 2007 Author Report Share Posted January 29, 2007 Thank you LoriS,It was certainly nice of you to reply, I do appreciate every word you wrote and all the good wishes you sent... Take care and Thanks again ShelleyHi Trudy1964, I want to thank you for your kindness and your well wishes, The answer to the weather is that most of the days were mid 70s and we did get one rainy day and one pretty cool day but I just made the best of things... Thanks for everything you wrote Take care ShelleyHi Shell,Thank you for your kindness and all your well wishes, I really can not express how much it means to me that I have a family here on this site... I had a time where I could actually smile and not feel guilty about doing it... I hope that everyone in this website family has this happen to them... Take care ShelleyHi Lorikelly,Thank you for your kindness and support during the time before my trip, As I said to Shell, I had actually a time last week where I could smile and not feel guilty about doing it... I really appreciate everything you have done for me... Take care Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted July 15, 2007 Author Report Share Posted July 15, 2007 Hi All,Here I go again, I have been asked to visit an old friend in Arizona in the early fall... I just do not know about flight by myself yet... Just the thought of flying again makes me sick... What can I do? I do want to see these people... Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoriS. Posted July 16, 2007 Report Share Posted July 16, 2007 Shelly...try and go. Sometimes we need to muster up the courage to just take the plunge. If you can go it would be great for you to do something different.Take care...Lori Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shell Posted July 16, 2007 Report Share Posted July 16, 2007 Shelley,I agree with Lori. Try to go if you think you can make it, because I think it would be so good for you to see old friends. Besides, you might meet someone intersting on the plane who will make the trip more pleasant. Hugs,Shell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted September 14, 2007 Author Report Share Posted September 14, 2007 Hi All,The Plans to go to Arizona fell through, but I am kind of glad they did because personally I did not feel like I was up to the flight by myself... I will try again soon to go... Take care Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shell Posted September 15, 2007 Report Share Posted September 15, 2007 Shelley,Sorry your plans fell through, but, like you said, you didn't feel up to it right now, so it's probably for the best. You'll have another chance and then you'll be ready!Hugs,Shell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted September 17, 2007 Author Report Share Posted September 17, 2007 Hi All,Eventhough my plans fell through for the last trip, I have planned another Disney trip for January... I really had a great time there and it would have been somewhere my mom would have loved to go... I might start a yearly thing with going there... Take care Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lorikelly Posted September 17, 2007 Report Share Posted September 17, 2007 Shelley Thats great to go to Disney again. we are real disney lovers. we try to go everyother yr. we went this june and had a great time. i won't go back in the summer to hot. i have a trip planned in nov for 4 days to williamsburg va. my boys are off from school. in june we hope to go to Georgia or maybe texas. my dad was from Texas. i hate flying so i try to go where we can drive to. however texas is far so i would have to think about flying. Lori Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dpodesta Posted September 17, 2007 Report Share Posted September 17, 2007 Texas ain't that far to drive, about 15 hours or so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lorikelly Posted September 18, 2007 Report Share Posted September 18, 2007 Thanks Derek. I thought it would be much further. My dad made his last trip there the yr before he died. He was in his mid seventies and drove straight through. Never stopped, i was so worried. He never worried . He loved going back and never lost his drawl. he had live up in the north since his twenties but his voice could tell you he came from someplace else. he will be gone 7 yrs this jan, where has the time gone. i thought it would be nice to see where he came from. i never meet any of his family, i probably have alot of cousins. Lori Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted September 22, 2007 Author Report Share Posted September 22, 2007 Thank you All for your imput and suggestions,It is great to know people care and understand.... Take care Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted November 4, 2007 Author Report Share Posted November 4, 2007 Hi All,I just wanted to let everyone know that I am planning to return to the place where my mom died... I am returning to Las Vegas in May of 2008... I think it will be a good think and help me move forward more with my grief... I just hope I do not cause any scenes with crying or anything.... Take care All and I will keep you posted.... Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shell Posted November 5, 2007 Report Share Posted November 5, 2007 Shelley,That's great! I think you'll be sad, but have a great time too! Hugs,Shell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
STARKISS Posted November 12, 2007 Author Report Share Posted November 12, 2007 Hi Shell,Thank you for your reply, but I am really thinking that I am going to back out... I just do not know if I can face it, The place where my mom died... I think it has too many memories of my mom and I would just think of her all the time I was there.... Who knows??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dpodesta Posted November 12, 2007 Report Share Posted November 12, 2007 Shelly,That might be what you need to do to work through this. I know for myself, I ran from thinking about Karen last year as long as I could. Now I am having a lot of emotions coming up and am having to really look at things. It is difficult and sometimes painful but I know that I need to do it to get better. I have made some progress since I have stated to allow myself to feel the pain and saddness. Love alwaysDerek Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rosanne Posted November 12, 2007 Report Share Posted November 12, 2007 I don't know how many of you are in the same town as your loved one that passed on- but, I am. I sleep in my mother's bed almost every night, I see her things all the time- even though it does make me sad there is a comfort about it also. Hugs,Rosanne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dpodesta Posted November 12, 2007 Report Share Posted November 12, 2007 rosanne,My wife died last year and there is no way I could have afforded to move, so I am in the same house sleep in the same bed, gpo to the same mall(although I try and stay away from there), so on and so forth, it is something I had to deal with.Love alwaysDerek Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rosanne Posted November 12, 2007 Report Share Posted November 12, 2007 Derek,Do you feel comfort in that now, Derek or do you wish you would have moved?You know I wonder when it is all over if I can move if I would?I know it has got to be so lonely for you, I think when a man is left it is so very sad, due to the fact that the woman usually does cooking and cleaning(notice I said usually) and it is so hard to have to carry all of that anyway, and then to loose your love.I just don't know if it is best to be removed or be there like we are- sometimes in our situation there is no choice....Love,Rosanne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dpodesta Posted November 12, 2007 Report Share Posted November 12, 2007 You know, I think I find confort in it. It was only recently that I was able to clean her stuff out of the closet. I worked last year on some projects that she wanted done. Also, I think that for my son it was better to try and keep as much as possible the same. To change to another house, another school, so on and so forth would have been too much for him. Yes it is difficult having to do it all, I usually helped with the cleaning, I already did the laundry other than folding it. I did the dishes, gave Carson a bath. But like you said, I helped with those things now there is no help. Carson could help with some but when it comes to cleaning and cooking it is just easier and faster for me to do it. I do miss coming home and dinner be cooking. Eventually I might move, I would love to get into a brand new house someday as the one we are in now was used when we bought it. Right now I still see the house as ours rather than mine and until I can see it differently or I am ready to have a house to call just mine I will continue to stay here. Also the advantage is when I refinance next year I will have a 15 year note rather than getting into a new house and go back to 30 years or more. About the only thing right now will be if the neighbor hood starts getting into gangs and the crime rate sky rockets, then I will move without hesitation.Love alwaysDerek Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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