sd01

Hi I am new to this forum ,but I read your message and it all sounds very familiar.Well here's is my story.My mother died October12th,2004 of several different illness's,my oldest brother had not come around all of us till,a couple days before momma died,he had been warned for a while by my brother next to him in age, that mom was not doing very good,but of course no response till the very end ,due to a very controlling wife of many years .Alot of heartache has been done to our family by him,his wife and 2 kids.The only reason I was ok with it of him and his 2 kids, coming to see her at the very end was for closesure for momma so she could go be with god,and for my father because he also wanted that for mom,but other then that I didn't care to see him,he said everything would change and we would be a family again ,but it never happened ,to tell you how bad he is, he can see me any where and not speak a single word to me,but you know what it doesn't bother me in the least because for many years I have looked at him as just another stranger in the world ,how can you lose something you have never had in the first place,I am the baby of the family and all I can remember were hurtful things him and his wife done to our whole family, so how can you truly have sencere feelings for someone like that ,it might sound mean but I just cannot except it in my life now,I have to forgive for the lord ,but I will never forget all the hurt my mother and father and us 4 other kids went through all these years due to such evil people like that.Then to top it all off my father also passes away 3 1/2 month's later on January 30th,2005,and from then my whole family except me and one of my sisters have gotten closer then we have ever been through all of this. My one good brother and me that has alway's been super close have fallen apart since all this,he is in charge of all the estate stuff and my mother and father thought he would be the one to be the fairest of all us kid and thats not been the case at all, so there has been alot of hurtfull things, said and done, due to all of this happening and I don't think our family will ever be the same, I was the child that was the care giver to my mother the last few years of her life and also helped my dad out alot to,but my father was in good health up until he died of we guess a massive heartattack,from the stress and such a broken heart from losing my mother of 48 years of marriage.So this has been very stressfull for my whole family to lose our parents in such a short time of one another.One of the biggest problems I have is, my brother I am closest to, wants my fathers old antique car and my sister and I does not want him to have it ,because he does not take care of his vehicles and my dad did not like him borrowing any of his cars, so that is why it is such a big issue with us,plus my father got that old car from my sisters ex husbands family, they had bought it new in England and had it shipped over here years later and my ex brother-in-law was going to buy it, but he instead let my father buy it, and him and my father had an agreement that when something happened to my father my ex-brother-in-law could buy it back,but my 2 brothers and other sister does not want that to happen, so there for my one brother wants it,but because of how he takes care of his cars my sister and I does not want to have it ,and as far as were concerned they can sell it to a stranger as long as they will take good care of it and hopefully put it in car show's as my mother and father alway's did,the car has alot of sentimental value to it,because my mother and father and the old car was once in a Michael Landon movie "Where Pigeons Go To Die" so it has alot of meaning to it.And as far as my oldest brother that never came around,I don't feel like he deserves anything out of the estate ,but I won't fight it because not long before my father died I had a talk with him about all this and he said that he wanted us all to have something,so there for I will just bite my tongue and let it be,because I would never go against what my mother and father wanted ,I have alway's been "Daddy's Little Girl" and thats the way it will alway's be . So if you have any suggestions or comments you would like to leave please feel free to do so,at this point I could use any help I can get,and it would be great to know Im not alone in the way I feel about all of this.Thank You for listening.SD