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Hello Van, I am so sorry your beloved Dustin is missing. I know how very heart wrenching it is to not know where your fur baby is, and if they are hurt or need help. I know it hurts when a pet dies, but at least then you know for sure where they are. When they don't come home, you are just left wondering. I found this site last October when my kitty, Mia, did not come home. The house was so lonely without her. I still take second looks when I see a cat that looks like her, just to make sure that is not her. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her. So I know first hand how much you must be hurting now. You have found a good site here. The people were very comforting to me last year when my cat was missing. I hope you get some level of comfort in knowing that Dustin knew that you loved him. Like Dustin, Mia would have gone crazy if I tried to keep her inside (I actually did for a while, but eventually she won.). I wish you peace and healing in the days and months ahead. Lori

Dear Serl and Shelly, I am very sorry for both your losses. I, too, wondered if the pain would ever end when Mia did not come home last fall. It was a long haul, but in time, it did get easier. I adopted two kitties from the shelter after Mia left and took in a ferel. Digit was the first I adopted, and I really was not quite ready for him at first. Having a kitty around that was not Mia was very difficult at first. But now after Digit's passing, I think it is actually helpful for me to have the other two kitties around. I guess every situation is different. I wish the best for both of you and thank you for the support and kindness that you have shown me. Lori

When I first posted here last fall http://hovforum.ipbhost.com/index.php?showtopic=733&st=0 to deal with the grief of having a cat that did not come home, I had no idea that I would need to visit the site again so soon. MartyT, Maylissa, and Eliza were all so helpful to me in supporting my search for Mia. After Mia disappeared last fall, I adopted a new kitty, Digit. A beautiful, almost one year old, little snowshoe Saimese who was at the local shelter. He was the best little lover-kitty that anyone could ask for. Yesterday I let him out while I did some chores in the yard. A car pulled up in front of the house across the street, they backed up and pulled forward and pulled in the driveway and so on. Then the lady got out and asked if I knew if those people were home. I said , 'No, I don't think so'. Then I asked if I could help her. She said she saw their cat get hit by a car and killed and the she wrapped in in a blanket and had it in her car. She said, yea, it was their siamese kitty. The neighbors do not have a siamese. I do. I told her that it was my kitty. She opened her hand to show me the collar and she asked if is this the one. It was. I took him to the emergency vet clinic just in case.... but he was gone. Poor little sweetheart. I hope he is in a happy place, and that there is a soft bed there for him to sleep on. I am so greatful to the lady who took the time to stop, pick him up and find me. She did not have to do any of that, yet she did. My nephew came over last night to help me bury him. We put him under a tree that he liked to climb and play in the plants and leaves at the base of it.

Tonight marks 10 weeks that Mia has been gone. I miss her so... and I pray that she is not hurt, cold, hungry, or suffering. I was hoping that somehow she might find her way home for Christmas. She's my baby, and I will always love her.

Dear Marty, Thank you so much for your support and helpful tips for finding my beautiful girl. You are right, I would have let everyone know if I had found her. In this case no news is definitely not good news. Tonight marks the 6 week mark of her being gone. I have not given up hope. But I do worry about her as the weather keeps getting colder. We had snow on Thanksgiving and over the weekend. I just want her to be OK. Thanks again, Lori

All, This is definitely not a passage from the bible, but it is a touching little story about the subject of pets, their people, and heaven. I've seen it posted several places on the web, and none say who the author is. It would be nice to be able to give them credit. Lori An old man and his dog were walking along a country road, enjoying the scenery, when it suddenly occurred to the man that he was actually dead. He remembered dying, and that his dog too had been dead for many years. He wondered where the road would lead them, and continued onward. After a while, they came to a high, white stone wall along one side of the road. It looked like fine marble. At the top of a long hill a tall white arch that gleamed in the sunlight broke it. When he was standing before it, he saw a magnificent gate in the arch that looked like mother of pearl, and the street that led to the gate looked like pure gold. He was pleased that he had finally arrived at heaven, and the man and his dog walked toward the gate. As he got closer, he saw someone sitting at a beautifully carved desk off to one side. When he was close enough, he called out, "Excuse me, but is this heaven?" "Yes, it is, sir," the man answered. "Wow! Would you happen to have some water?" the man asked. "Of course, sir. Come right in, and I'll have some ice water brought right up." The gatekeeper gestured to his rear, and the huge gate began to open. "I assume my friend can come in?" the man asked, gesturing toward his dog. But the reply was "I'm sorry, sir, but we don't accept pets." The man thought about it then thanked the gatekeeper, turned back toward the road, and continued in the direction he had been going. After another long walk, he reached the top of another long hill, and he came to a dirt road that led through a farm gate. There was no fence, and it looked as if the gate had never been closed, as grass had grown up around it. As he approached the gate, he saw a man just inside, sitting in the shade of a tree in a rickety old chair, reading a book. "Excuse me!" he called to the reader. "Do you have any water?" "Certainly, There's a pump over there," the man said, pointing to a place that couldn't be seen from outside the gate. Come on in and make yourself at home." "How about my friend here?" the traveler gestured to the dog "He's welcome too, and there's a bowl by the pump," he said. They walked through the gate and, sure enough, there was an old-fashioned hand pump with a dipper hanging on it and a bowl next to it on the ground. The man filled the bowl for his dog; he then took a long drink himself. When both were satisfied, he and the dog walked back toward the man, who was sitting under the tree waiting for them, and asked, "What do you call this place?" "This is heaven," was the answer. "Well, that's confusing," the traveler said. "It certainly doesn't look like heaven, and there's another man down the road who said that place was heaven." "Oh, you mean the place with the gold street and pearly gates?" "Yes, it was beautiful." "Nope. That's hell." "Doesn't it offend you for them to use the name of heaven like that?" "No. I can see how you might think so, but it actually saves us a lot of time. They screen out the people who are willing to leave their best friends behind."

Dear Eliza and Maylissa, Thank you both for your help, suggestions, kind words and love. Today was actually one of the more promising days. Responses to the ads have slowed down quite a bit. But today I had calls of two possible sightings. They are quite close to each other, so they could very well have both been her. On Sunday I walked through the woods looking for her and calling to her in a line almost directly between today's two possible sightings! I hope my baby smells me and knows I am looking for her. Yes, I have actually been visiting the shelter 2-3 times a week. They keep new cats in quarrantine at least 3 days before putting them out for adoption. Some of the kitties stay out for adoption for a week or more, so if someone brings her there, I will definitly find her. There is also a small rescue, they don't get too many cats, so I feel confident that if she is there I will find her by phone. The people there are friendly and will describe all the cats that have come in (with only 3-4 cats a week, you can do that). Unlike the shelter that probably sees about 10 cats a day come in. The only other rescue I have found in the area is closed, so as far as I know, I'm checking the places I need to. I have gotten a trap, but I'm a little reluctant to set it until I'm fairly sure Mia or similar kitty is actually in the area. I've seen two skunks in my yard at the same time. Also have seen some in my neighbor's yard. I really do not want to deal with a skunk in a trap. They are all around here. And my town currently does not have an animal control officer to help with a skunk dilemma. I guess that pretty much gets you up to date. Thanks for the support, Lori

Dear Evelyn, I am so sorry for your loss. I just read Walt's post to you. I feel strongly that your dear Gene used Jean and Walt to make sure that you would have yellow roses on your birthday. Love always finds a way.... With sincere sympathy, Lori

Dear Eliza and Maylissa, Weekends are so hard! I really missed you guys this weekend when the site was down. Miss Mia is still not home. I had a call last Thursday from a lady who saw her picture in the paper. We both knew it was a long-shot, because she lived 45 minutes away. But since we both had state highway crews repaving near our houses recently, it was possible that Mia hopped in a worker's vehicle, and rode to another area. That kitty looked so much like my Mia, but it was not her. The other sightings have been for tabbies with white feet - not my little girl either. But there was some good news last week. In the course of searching for Mia, I met another lady who lost a kitty recently. She was cat sitting for her aunt who was in the hospital. She was taking the cat to the vet when it escaped and ran away. Three weeks to the day, she got a call from some people who had been feeding the cat and thought that it looked like the cat on her posters. Sure enough it was. It would not come to her, but she was able to trap it and return it to her grateful, elderly aunt. I'm still checking the shelter twice a week. But other than that I don't know what else to do besides sit tight and wait. Thank you both for all of your support. It means a lot to me. Love and HUGS back! Lori

Dear Western Belle, My last post may be a bit confusing. I assumed Violet was a dog (and the mother of the puppies), but after having a closer look at the picture, I think she may have been a lamb. I am so sorry for the confusion. It does not really matter what kind of animal she was, but that you love her and miss her! I am going to order the course described in the link below for myself, to help me cope with the loss of my kitty. When you order the course, you can also order it for a friend for no extra charge. Please show this link to your parents and if they approve, the second copy of my course can be for you or your parents. If your parents approve of either you or them receiving this course, please post back to this site, and I will provide my telephone number so that they can call me to give me permission to have the course sent. http://www.selfhealingexpressions.com/cour...verview_6.shtml Best of luck to you, Lori

Dear Eliza, Maylissa, and Marty, Thank you all so much for your support. Mia is still missing. I have not been keeping this sight updated with all my latest efforts, but I have read the suggested websites suggested by Maylissa and Marty, and have been following the advice. (newspaper ad, telephone posters, fliers to houses and at haloween party, posters in stores, checking shelters and vets, callings while walking (and driving to hit neighborhoods too far to walk), contacted 2 animal communicators) I miss Mia dearly, at times and it is really difficult to keep up the hope because it hurts so much to have to constantly remind myself that she is missing in order to keep searching. I love my girl and don't want to let her down. She is so small (7.5 lbs) and the weather is getting colder. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers. Lori

Update on Mia- I've had a few responses to the ad and pic in the paper. But they are not her. I have responded to ads in the paper, but they are not her. I have handed out a lot more flyers and talked to a lot of people, but the last possible sighting was last weekend. I wish I had better news. Please keep praying!

Mia has not been found, yet. But the search is gaining momentum. I spoke with a pet communicator today who described where Mia might be and the things she was seeing. After speaking with her, I think Mia may be just beyond where I have been searching. Several of the things that the communicator mentioned that Mia is seeing are a little beyond my current search: big trucks (the next building over from where I stopped distributing fliers is a big garage that houses 3 or 4 home heating oil trucks), a deck that is very high that she wants to get up on, but is too high and she can't get on it (the next house after the oil truck garage has an apartment house in back of it that I think has decks off of the second story), and gently sloping ground and houses with daylight basements (until the oil truck garage, the land is very flat, then after that garage, the land slopes gently for a while, and there is a whole neighborhood in that area where most houses have a daylight basement). So I have not seen her, but I have several new places to check out. I miss my girl dearly, but I have renewed hope. I only wish I knew last week all I know now about missing cats.

Dear Marty and Eliza, Thank you both so much for your support and additional ideas for finding Mia. I will not give up my search. And, Eliza, I had read your recommendation for contacting Annette Betcher on another post last night and sent her an email. I will be calling her tomorrow as soon as her office opens. Miss Mia and I are very close, so I hope that Annette will be able to help me! My neices and I embarked on an extensive neighborhood calling today. Nothing turned up but I was certainly educated as to just how many places she could be. I'll keep you posted on the search for Mia. Thank you, Lori

Hello All, My beloved cat Mia did not come home last week. I have taken the normal steps - checked the humane society, scoured the neighbor hood with fliers, etc - but still no Mia. It has been long enough now, where I am quite sure that she will not be coming home. The grief is nearly unbearable. She was only six and a half. I though she was going to be with me for a long time to come. Part of what makes it so difficult is that I did not get to say 'goodbye'. While I have found it helpful to read many posts on this forum, I could really use the support of someone in a little more 'concentrated' manner than through posts. I welcome direct emails or Yahoo IM, if anyone would like to share their experience or have support to offer. If you wish to post a reply here, that is certainly welcome, too! Thanks so much - Miss Mia's Mom (Lori)