Thanks for talking about confliciting feelings about mothers. I moved away from home when I was 18 and only came back for a day at a time over the years. Later, when I was older I began to accept my mother for who she was, and finally in her last two years, she moved closer to be near me, and I was happy for this, and able to see her every week when she was in an apartment, and almost every day when she was in a nursing home. I'm glad I had this time, and I always enjoyed going to see her. She would always feed me something, and I would feel like I was being taken cared of. I don't have that now anywhere. It was very special these past two years. I do have some guilt because when she was dying, I continued to travel for work, even though she didn't want me to. My daughter and her fiancee were with her when she died, and I was on a plane coming home. In a way I'm glad I didn't see her dying, and can remember her alive. She was a very strong woman, but lonely in many ways. She had her emotional problems, and had trouble fitting in, but was always telling others what to do. She was very intelligent, and always encouraged me to be all that I could be. She always said that I had a right to work and a family. She encouraged my children to go on to get professional degrees. I am beginning to know now that I am more like my mother than I thought. I am "strong" like her, but also emotionally tend to keep to myself. I love a few people, but have trouble committing. Right now I am a bit lost, trying to figure out whether to move, and whether to to remarry, but both are overwhelming decisions. I'm realizing that I am handling a lot emotionally, and need support.