Fiona, I am so sorry for your loss...it's truly unbearable, but it is even less understandable when death comes to someone so young. I lost my husband and best friend Jeff, in August of 2003, and this year is the year it has really hit me hard. You are numb right now, I believe we just keep ourselves busy with whatever fills our mind at the moment. Our children, our jobs, the normal day to day tasks that keep us absorbed in our daily lives. It seems to me that grief comes in waves and at it's own opportune moments. I have talked to others who have said that it sometimes took them years later to grieve someone they lost. At any rate, it is our grief...it comes when it comes...and we deal with it at those moments. I believe it took me so long because my husband suffered with cancer, and for a long time, I was just thankful that he was no longer in pain...then little things happened...our daughter gave us our first grandchild, my older son moved away, my youngest son just turned 18...and all these events took place without Jeff. It was then that my grief began to come in uncontrollable waves. Sometimes it was so overwhelming, that like you, someone would have to physically help me out. There is no explanation or guidebook to how we feel or grieve or act...I say you will experience as it comes. It sounds like you have a great support system, your son, friends, and family. Keep them close, let your heart feel what it needs to when it needs to, cherish your memories... he is always with you... and God Bless! Corinna