Hi everybody. I'm new here and I'll give you my story, briefly, if I may. I am 42 years old, divorced 2 years ago, after a 19 year marriage. In doing so, my entire family, with the exception of my now 15 year old daughter, disowned me. My X had a large part to do with dismantling my life, including my now 18 year old son, who cusses me out every time I try to have contact with him. I have lost my mother, sister (and her family), brother, stepmother (whom I loved dearly), along with numerous friends. My father is the only family member who will speak to me, but we usually end up in fights, with him saying the nastiest things to me, in defense of my x husband. I got to the point where I quit my job and moved 1,000 miles away with my daugter and boyfriend, just to escape the humiliation. I've been away for a year and a half and I continually try to contact my mom and sister. They either won't answer, or pick up the phone and say "don't ever call here again". This has caused me so much pain, I can't function. I am, in a sense, mourning the loss of my whole family. I fall asleep thinking about it and it's the first thing on my mind when I wake up in the morning. My friends tell me to get on with my life and focus on the good things. How do I just forget about my family? How long does this grieving process take? Nobody seems to understand how much it hurts to not have contact with the people I have loved all my life. Any advice??
