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  1. Hi Maylissa I will be happy to tell you about my near death, when I have a bit more time, I am getting ready to go away for the first time in 12 years!!! I did want to tell you this part before I go, I had a dog named puppy when I was a child that I loved so very much, she was taken from me by a very violent man, and went with a horrific death, for years after I had terrible nightmares about all this, well during my near death I saw her, she looked beautiful, restored, and at peace. Words cant tell you how much peace this left me with, my nightmares went away and I was able to be at peace over what happened knowing that she was fine, and that someday I will be with her again. This also allowed me to go and get another pet, where before I would not allow myself to do so. In 1987 I lost my two best friends, my horse Cameo, and my best friend Jackie, well about a month later, I laid down and had not yet gone to sleep when the next thing I knew I am riding my horse Cameo, and I look over and there is Jackie riding her horse, that had just passed over. Between these two things I am more then sure that even the spirit of our beloved animals still go on!!!!! Hugs my friend, Debbie
  2. Thanks Maylissa Arthur passed the night before his operation, it was very strange as I spent lots of time with him, telling him what was going to happen to him the next day. I was fully ready to lose him during the operation as it was so high risk, well he had his own plans, and passed during the night. Amazing about your package :-) I also had a near death during a operation when I was 21, and ever since then I have had no fear of dying, and sometimes I feel that it is a help when someone or something I love passes, it is only the real pain of being left behind, that hurts so dang bad. I do try to hold onto that each and everyone of them are in a better place, free from pain, and yes someday we all will be joined together again. I know that Nissa will be waiting for you, as well as Arthur will be waiting for me. Gives me a great comfort anyway. I am going to do my best to stay around this time :-) I need to. Hugs, Debbie
  3. Hi Maylissa I have been away for awhile. I am so very sorry that your pain is so heavy. You loved Nissa so very much. I have to Thank You for your help with my dear Arthur, but I have to finally let you know that he lost his battle to a liver shunt, last Dec. Anyway I am going to try to be around more now. Hugs to you, Debbie
  4. Hi Shell So sorry to read about your Mom, I also have been away for a long time. Am thinking of you, and you kitties. Take care, Debbie
  5. Dear Maylissa Oh Maylissa I am so very sorry that you lost your beautiful girl. I really dont have the words I want to say, I know that you were the best Mom, and I know that Nissa loved you with all that she had. Holding you in my heart and thanks for always being there for me, sorry I have been missing Hugs Debbie
  6. Hi Maylissa Yes please send me this info :-))) Thank You!!! I am so happy that Nissa is recovering sending thoughts to her :-))) They sure are blessing each and every day!! Thank You again, Debbie
  7. Dear Maylissa Sorry it has taken me so long to reply. Arthur is still healing, it has been quite a long road to travel. Each day that passes is better for him. No, still no diagnosis, most likely will never get opne either. It seems to me that it has to be something that isnt spread or my other dogs would be ill. So that is good, as I dont think I could stand them all being ill. Thank You again for the heal-a-pet link, they are really super nice people. One lady said she would work on me also, that would be nice I told her thank you. How is your kitty Nissa doing? Take care, Debbie
  8. Hi Maylissa Again I really have to Thank You from the bottom of my heart, your help has seen both Arthur and I thru these dark days. I thank you for your prayers, and the healing you sent his way, it is working!!!!! This is amazing, I went to pick up Arthur at 4:30 on Tuesday like they told me to, and I had to wait almost a hour to get him, as he was throwing up blood. They gave him fluids, you know the kind that makes them look like a basketball, and I brought him home. On the way home, the first thing that I noticed was a change in his eyes, they finally had life in them, that glassy stare was gone. And at that moment even with the bads news the vet had just given me I knew she was wrong. Well we got home, and I cooked dinner for my other furbabies and Arthur slept. I cut up some of the liver I cooked and gave it to him, he just looked at it. About an hour later he ate it all up!!!!!! I did not give him much as he has not eaten in so many days. Well it stayed down as well as the water. He went back to the vet Wed. and they were shocked to see how well he was doing....so I told them why...I told them about the heal-a-pet. Today I had a Animal Communicator do a reading, she was really good, I didnt tell her a thing, and she was right on with alot of things, like she said his throat hurt, all the way down and thru his stomach etc. That his stomach was hot. All I said was I can understand why. I did not want to feed her anything. She picked up on almost everything. She also said "you will say duhh..he is depressed." Then she said that he wanted something from me.....cloths....dirty cloths...one that I have worn. So he is now sound asleep on my shirt. He would sneak into my bedroom while I was out feeding the horses and drag my cloths out into the living room and sleep on them. I ask her to please let him know that he did nothing wrong, and that he needs to rest and get well before he can come back out and be with me and his other furfriends. She said she did but he will still give me those sad eyes. She also told me that he wants to live and he loves me. She wants me to call her back when he is well, so she can read his personality, she said she could not get any right now, other then the depression. So today being my daddy's b-day at 12 a.m. my time, I sat with Arthur wrapped up in my lap and just him and I, and talked with him. He loved it and so did I. Thank You also for what you wrote about my love....this makes sense, and I am telling myself this now. Thank You again, Debbie
  9. Today is my daddy's b-day, and I sure miss him. He left this earth almost 11 years ago, and sometimes it feels like yesterday. Daddy I have always felt the void that was created when you left. I will forever love you. I hope that you and Mom are having a party!!! Your daughter, Debbie
  10. Wow Maylissa, I have already gotten two email from the heal-a-pet. One lady said the first thing that struck her was how very beautiful Arthur is, almost made me cry, which would be something as I have become a dry prune in the tear dept. I have to fight with myself, and I try very hard to not blame myself for this....I have this stupid tape that plays in my head..."see what happens when you love something?" Anyway I Thank You from the bottom of my heart for telling me about this site, I feel calmer now :-))))) Thank You, Thank You Arthur is home with me now, he is asleep, but he did go outside and peed good, bless his heart, he walks like he is drunk, he is asleep again. He goes back again tomorrow. Thank You for your support. Take care, Debbie
  11. Thank You Maylissa, I found the website and just sent them pictures of Arthur. It came up with heal-a-pet:-)))))) I will let you know what they say if you would like!!!! Arethur looked better this am before I took him back to the vet, he threw up "blood clots" and now one of his lungs sound funny she said. I will be picking him up again tonite and having him here with me so I can watch him. Thanks again, Debbie
  12. Dear Maylissa I have been on the net seems like there are alot of resons behind what is going on with his wbc. I do have a holistic vet. They think he may have parvo I dont think he does as he had all his shots, and he is not bleeding, and he is able to keep water down. Here is the kicker. I get a call at 4:30 pm telling me I need to pick up Arthur by 5 or he would be all alone there for over 15 hours. So I rush over there and pick him up and bring him home where he is now. He is sooooo depressed and it is hard to see him this way. I have given him his Tamiflu (yes the human kind) I take him back to the vet at 8 am. guess I will need to be ready to go get him every night. He could have a viral, bactrial, or even a toxic or posion, that could have triggered his immune crash. I do not know if we will ever know what it is. All I know is I really dont believe that it is parvo, as I worked for a vet for years, and have worked with tons of parvo dogs and he just does not fit the bill. However he is just as ill. I am sending his blood off to Dr. Jean Dodds. she does a "hemopet" which is the only group to take into account the age, sex, and breed of the animal. Cavaliers can have Thrombocytopenia where the wbc are larger than normal and cause problems in itself. But he does have a illness of some sort. Thank You for your prayers and I will look for the items you mentioned. I do have Rescue Remedy. The ER vet told me that it could take days before he improves. He wont eat, and is getting thin fast, cant believe how fast it comes off. He is sound asleep now. Thanks again, Debbie....and I still send you& your baby prayers
  13. UPDATE on Arthur I went and picked up Arthur early this a.m. and took him to my vet. His white blood count has come up a bit, still way below normal, right now it is at 3.21 normal is 5.50-16.90 yesterday he was at 1.22, so low they dont know why he lived thru the day. He is not out of the woods yet, I am a wreck, I got so upset yesterday that I was up all night being sick myself ugh. It was so good to be able to have him in my lap for the drive to my vet. Thanks, Debbie
  14. Thanks Maylissa, the vet just called, his cbc showed that his white blood count has dropped even more, so they have started the plasma, which will be his only chance to make it!!!!! Thanks for your prayers. I have been saying them for your kitty also.
  15. Hi everyone Please please say a prayer for my little Arthur, a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel 5 month old pup, whom I got after losing my dear Mom, named him in honor of my Dad, last night I had to rush him to the ER vets, he has crashed, white blood count to low, in 12 hours they will give him plasma, vet told me he could die, he is very ill. This was so very fast, I cant stand the thought of him dying, so please send him your prayers. Thanks everyone, Debbie
  16. Hi Maylissa Oh Nissa kisses sound so very special, I have never heard of a cat like yours :-))) If Nissa is in CHF then fluids can be a very serious problem. I am so sorry that all this is going on, and the triggers this brings up for you. Sending you and Nissa healing....Take care, Debbie
  17. Hi Whoopie I am so very sorry for all that you have been and are going thru, you sure have a awful lot on your plate right now. I am so glad that you are signed up for a support group. I totaly understand where you are and have been. I also suggest that you find a support group for caregivers, this is something that I wished that I had done, looking back on what all has happened with myself, I really believe that it would have made my life easier. I began my caregiver role, almost 11 years ago. I lost my dad 7/14/95 on my b-day, soon after I had to care for my Mom, And thru the years of doing so I was able to heal the pains of childhood with both my parents, but with Mom it was after I lost my dad. I lost my Mom 11/13/05. I will be more than happy to be here to listen to you and attempt to offer you support thru all that you face. Please know that your post was not to long, and I am sorry that I did not respond sooner. Take care, Debbie WHEN SILENCE IS BROKEN DOES NOT THE SOUL BEGIN TO HEAL?
  18. Thank You Shell, my Dad went fast also here at home, I am also so thankful for this as he hated hospital's, now I know why!!!! I am so sorry to read about your Mom's kidney and possible lupus, you also hang in there!!! Thanks again, take care, Debbie I try very hard to not beat myself up
  19. Hi Gracey Thank You for letting us know how it went!!!! I am so sorry that your Mom is dying, I am thankful that you were able to go be with her, and that you both were able to cry and to talk. I am so sorry that you had the flashes of your Mom being healthy, I also had that happen a few times. Holding you in my thoughts, and please remember that we are here for you when you need us. Take care, Debbie
  20. My Dad passed away on my b-day 7/14/1995 I have felt his being several times, and every time I see a falling star I tell him Thank you I love you....when my Mom was dying I felt my father real strong, I also saw flashes of light....and my dad's bird started going nuts, screaming an exciting scream that he has not done in years and years, I am so sure that daddy's bird saw dad.
  21. Hi Maylissa, okay so when is your b-day? You are so very right, it is indeed an education that I sure did not want to learn, The two Dr.'s that took care of my Mom, I think that they did a wonderful job, it was the hospital staff that was horrible, I even had Mom's Dr. say to me "I dont know were to put your Mom when I let her leave the ICU, I dont trust the floor that she was on, so I think I will put her on another floor." which is what he did, and at least things were a bit different there. I live in FL. and in this state adult childern can not sue....if there are no dependent childern or a spouse, so this hospital thought they were in great shape, until I told them "you all think you are as smug as a bug, however Mom does have a depent child" We are thinking about looking into a lawsuit. However dont think that it will really do any good. I am so very sorry that you have to go thru this in your head. I am right there with you on I also can not get over how it all ended for my Mom either, and seem to bounce between anger and overwhelming sadness. Take care, Debbie
  22. Hi Shell Thank You for the hugs and luck, the hardest part is the waiting to get the news, which I am still waiting for. I do the same thing and tell myself that things will get better someday. Hugs and luck to you, Debbie
  23. Dear Pandoras box I am so very sorry for your loss, and for the pain. I understand this kind of pain. Today I am in pain. The crippling kind, that you just can't get rid of, no matter what you do. I lost my dad 10 1/2 years ago, and in the beginning for about the first year or so, I had the raw pain. It did begin to ease, now the pain is much better, it is not so very raw, and at least I can breathe with my chest feeling like it will explode. I lost my Mom in Nov. 05 so am still in the raw period here. I know that I am still in shock, and at the very beginning of the grief process, but how long does this all-encompassing, paralizing pain last? I know that there is no set timeline for grief, but this type of pain can't last forever. I know that there will be times, here and there, throughout life, that it will come up, again, but I'm talking about at the beginning. For those of you who have been going through this, for some time, how long did it take to get past the daily heart-wrenching pain? How long was it before you felt as though you could get through an entire day without your chest exploding? For me with dad I would say a year or so. Now I can remember my dad and not have it hurt, when I see a shooting star I say hello to my dad and tell him I love him. The pain is mostly gone, more sadness and missing him over that crushing pain. Hope this helps. Take care, Debbie WHEN SILENCE IS BROKEN DOES NOT THE SOUL BEGIN TO HEAL?
  24. Hi All I have just gotten Rosanne Cash new CD title Black Cadillac, she wrote the songs and did this whole CD about losing both her parents within 6 mos. I really like the CD, Black Cadillac is a great sone, I really love this one.. I Was Watching You written by Rosanne Cash Headlights on a Texas road. Hank Williams on the radio a church wedding, they spent all they had, now the deal is done to become mom and dad. And I was watching you, from above long before there was love. See those little girls dressed like china dolls all for one, then one by one they fall high on a hill where the world passes by, you never came back but I know you tried. Cause I was watching you from above when it all falls apart there is love. All these years to prove how much I care. I didn't know it, but you were always there until September, when you slipped away in the middle of of my life on the longest day now I hear you say....... I'll be watching you, from above cause long after life, there is love. Baby, I'll be watching you from above, long after life there is love.
  25. Hi Maylissa First I am so very sorry for the delay in getting back with you, I have had the flu. I am so very sorry that the hospital made so many mistakes with your Mom also, It is so very sad that this happens, and with people who are supposed to "do no harm". I have to tell you that sometimes I wish that I was not there to see all this first hand, so I thank you for your post, as it let me know that it still would have been a nightmare. One thing that really lays heavy on me is that I had power of attorney over my Mom and her care, all that seemed to be good for was to sign for the different things that they wanted to do. It made no difference in regards to the "saying NO to treatment" I feel like a huge failure for not being able to protect my Mom, and all I could do was to stand by and watch them kill her. I have such a rage about her care, and I have no clue what to do with it. I dont know how to stop blaming myself for what happened. Your Dear mom and my Mom had alot of the same problems. She also had strokes, she had her first one 11 years ago, that is when I became her full time caregiver. She got back to the point where she could use a walker to get around, and was doing pretty good until Jan. of 05. That is when the nightmares began. Almost lost her late Jan. to heart and kidney failure, found out that this was due to wrong meds. Got this taken care of and then she goes right back into the hospital with Diverticulistis on July 8th. and she did not go to rehab until 9/15. She had more strokes and mini strokes. It was so hard and unreal watching her go down like she did, feeling so helpless, I would have done anything to help her. However having lived it with her, I know that there was no way that I could change anything, not even getting her the right help, that makes all this even more hard to take. My b-day is 7/14 Take care, Debbie WHEN SILENCE IS BROKEN DOES NOT A SOUL BEGIN TO HEAL? Hi Maureen Thank You for your post. I also spray Mom's perfume, and I also wear some of her clothes. I also talk with my Mom, and when I need to hear her voice I listen to the message's (3) that I have on the phone, One is extra special, as she says, I just called to hear your voice and to tell you that I love you. I will never get rid of it. When she came home from the hospital I played it for her, and she was so touched that I had saved it. I have a few pictures of Mom up, I want to put more up, but right now I just cant seem to put them out. Thanks, Take care, Debbie WHEN SILENCE IS BROKEN DOES NOT THE SOUL BEGIN TO HEAL?
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