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Thank you for responding Paul, and to the others who prayed for Marty, that has meant alot Marty is doing fine and is feeling comfort that he will be with his god. Pain is tolerable, and he is surrounded by love. Much love and thanks coming your way. Sean....................................

Hi friends, A life long friend has been given four weeks to prepare for his death at age 35. Marty has been a good friend to all and his passing will be strongly felt amongst all who knew him. If you feel comfortable saying a prayer for Marty, please do so. Much love and blessings to all of you always, Sean................. Most merciful Jesus, lover of souls, I pray to you by the agony of your most sacred heart, and by the sorrows of your Immaculate mother, to wash in your most Precious Blood the sinners of the world who are now in their agony, and who will die today. Heart of Jesus, once in agony, have mercy on all the dying, and for my dear friend Marty. Jesus, Mary and Joseph, Marty gives you his heart and his soul. Gently assist him in his last agony in his hour of need, and grant that he may breath forth his soul in peace, and open your everloving arms, for the eternal love Marty shares so deeply for you. Amen.

Hi Jath, I'm just speculating, but I'm assuming the helicopter incident was a dream...........yes? Sean.......................

Hi Jath, In my mind of thinking death is something more of something discussed in a spiritual environment. Maybe something discussed in a church group or even amongst close friends and family. The only reason I say that is because there is no right way to grieve, I'm not so sure it can be taught, it seems everybody has thier own way, and thats ok. You asked a very hard question, its just my thoughts, I hope they helped. Maybe others can help more. Much love and blessings to you my friend, Sean..................................

Hi Tara, I am very sorry for your losses. I hope you find comfort in knowing you'll be loved here, I too hope you continue to post. Love and blessings to all, Sean.................................

Hi Lucy, sounds like your the strong one in the family, I'm sorry for your loss of your dad, I know how tough that can be. Its important to take care of you too, try to talk to your family and express how your feeling and maybe they can help out more. Let them know that during times like these its important for a family to work together. Please come here if you need a shoulder, the lights on 24/7, always remember that. Much love headed your way, Sean.......................

Hi kathy, I don't think your being a downer. Losing someone you love is one of the hardest things to come to terms with. There are so many emotions that you "try" to come to grips with that it takes its toll on anyone who has to "live" through it. I always say, I'd give a million dollars for five more minutes with mom if I could. I wouldn't need to talk, all I'd need is a five minute hug. God I miss her something terible. Love to all, Sean....................................

Amanda, I am so sorry for your loss, our friend MartyT posted this in another forum and I thought you might like to read it if you haven't already. Its titled; You Should be Over “IT” Thoughts by Sharon White, Cedar Rapids, Iowa It’s been a year; you should be over it. What exactly is “IT?” I’ll tell you what “IT’ is. IT is five days after the funeral, Thanksgiving Day, trying to find something to be thankful for. IT is Christmas without the merry, and New Year’s without the happy. IT is your first day back to work when every minute you are afraid you will burst into tears. IT is his birthday, but there is no him. IT is Valentine’s Day, only this time the roses are from your children. IT is your birthday, and there is still no him. IT is April 15 and you sing “filing as surviving spouse” – surviving, yes; living, no. IT is springtime when everything comes alive except you, that is. IT is Easter and everyone is singing “Let Us Rejoice and Be Glad” – there is no rejoicing and no glad. IT is Mother’s Day and you sadly remember how happy he was when each child was born. IT is Father’s Day and your kids spend it with you and there is an empty chair in the room. IT is the 4th of July and the job of raising the flag has been passed on to your sons. IT is vacation time and you go with your widowed friend, and you both cry together. IT is Halloween and you pass out the candy, but the silly grandpa in the mask is absent. IT is seeing your one-year-old grandchild take her first step knowing there should be one more set of arms reaching out to her. IT is looking at the moon and wondering if he sees the same moon like the two of you always did when apart in the past. IT is receiving that first wedding invitation that is addressed to you and your “guest.” IT is going back into “that” church for the first time and remembering, but not remembering and feeling that all eyes are upon you. IT is going to another funeral for the first time and feeling yourself shaking all over, too distraught to stay, but unable to leave. IT is doing all the things you always did, plus all the things he always did, and doing it when all your energy has been used for grieving. IT is being strong when you really feel weak. IT is putting on a pasted smile when you are crying inside and saying you are okay when you really aren’t. IT is dealing with titles and abstracts and bills and attorneys and doing it very well when all you really want to do is hibernate. IT is a whole big bunch of stuff you didn’t ask for, didn’t want and can’t even give away. IT is going to the cemetery and seeing the monument with his name, and it hits you in the face that this is real. IT is feeling like a traitor when you get rid of his personal belongings. IT is seeing couples hand in hand and tearfully glancing at the gold band he put on your ginger years ago and somehow not being able to take it off. IT is approaching the first anniversary of his death and reliving it all – oh, yes, you are better, but the void is no less. IT is people forgetting and you cry, and it is people remembering and you cry. IT is a future of unknowns and uncertainties and emptiness. IT is your wedding anniversary, and for the first time you really understand the words, “till death do us part.” IT is in the first glimpse of sunrise and in your last waking breath, and even finds ways to creep into your sleep and your dreams. So maybe when someone tells you that you should be over it by now, you should just tell them what “IT” really is! [source: Bereavement Magazine July/August 2003. Reprinted with permission from Bereavement Publishing, Inc., 888.604.4673 That about says it all. Thank you for sharing Marty. Lots of love and blessing to all of you, Sean.....................

*wiping tears* Thank you Marty. Sean...............

You can come here and we'll all cry together hows that My mom died a little over a month ago and I cry everyday Erica. I still meet moms friends who didn't know she died and without knowing ask me how she is and then I have to let them know. And then we all start crying LOL, and its ok to do that. Tears are little drops of love my friend, always remember that, pleaase don't ever hold them back. Huge hugs coming your way, Sean..........................

Shubom, I am so sorry for your losses. My mom died on January 15, 6 days before her birthday. Its a day I will remember forever. I think of mom a thousand times a day. Its the wonderful gift that we call love that keeps her in our hearts and minds. I would like to use part of Marty's post from another thread, it was very powerful, and I would like to share it with you if you haven't read it already. I feel it says it all. "As Washington Irving has written, There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than 10,000 tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love." You are not alone Shubom, I feel your pain and your sorrow my friend, we all do. Much love and blessing to you, Sean..................

*wiping tears* Thank you all so much for sharing your storys Much love and blessings to all of you, Sean...........................

I look forward to it Thanks for sharing. Sean..................

I just wanted to share this with all of you. I lost my mom suddenly in January and I haven't stopped feeling her prescence since. She was such a wonderful loving person and mother. She was kind to everyone and everyone loved her dearly. Last night my wife and my 4 year old fell asleep in my sons bed. Sometimes its best if she stays with him till he falls asleep, and then she comes to bed herself but last night she fell asleep also. At 1:30am this morning I woke up in our bed and I was teeth chattering cold, I mean I coudn't find a stitch of warmth. I had a sheet, a quilt and a wool blanket on me and I was just freezing to the point where it woke me. My first thought was that I hope I'm not getting sick. Within a few moment my wife walked in with my son, I thought she was cold too so I asked he if she needed any blankets or if she wanted to keep him in here with us. She told me that she woke up because Colin was at the end of the bed talking. She said I asked him what he was doing and he said he was talking to the shadow over there. (He pointed to the corner) She jumped up and said what shadow Colin, and he said over there. He said don't be scared mommy its our friend so happily. He said they were laughing together and he was having fun. Can anyone else relate to this? Thanks for reading. Much love to all, Sean....................

Hi Grace, First I would like to say I'm so sorry, I know you must be a wreck, I pray for your peace, believe me I do. If its any help I know your mom will be in good hands. She will be amongst friends and family and they will welcome her with open arms I promise. She will be pain free, and the warmth of the lord surrounds all. We lost a loved one who past 4 years ago. I found her passing to be actually quite peaceful Grace. My wifes mom died of pulmonary fibrosis. She had it for 8 years before it finally took her from us. I saw in our circumstances more of a peaceful ending. The pain was gone, and she was comfortable with the knowledge she was going home. I just lost my mom suddenly in January. She was 60, in excellent health, active swimming, dancing and always having fun. She was one of those moms everybody loved to be around. She was a true blessing to know if you got the chance to meet her. I miss her terribly, as I know you will miss yours. I feel mom all around us, her spirit soars Grace. I know you will feel your mom too. Much love and blessings coming your way my friend, Sean...................................... edit to add: Marty that was absolutely beautiful, thank you for sharing.