Sadeyes

As I read and listen to all of your wonderful songs, 2 come to mind for me. The first is the saddest as I never really listened to it until after my Mother's passing. It is sung by favorite female singer, Celine Dion. I wish I had listened earlier, as I feel I may have behaved differently when it was needed. The second made me cry the first time I heard it and this is when my Mom was still with us and now, I can only listen when I am alone. It tears me up, but I feel it also helps me to heal. The song is by David Cook and it is about his older brother who is struggling with brain cancer. You can feel the emotion when you hear it and I feel it is the sweetest honor he could have given his brother. (((Hugs))) to all. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hg_17ZTRBRQ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y6PUDlbiEDU

I had a very hard time reading the poem to honor your Mother...but I did get through it. I think they are the most beautiful words I have ever read. I hope you feel comfort knowing you were with your Mom in her last hours. I went home from the hospital with my family, feeling in my heart...I should have stayed...although hoping my Mom would be okay in the morning. The nursing staff did not offer us much information at all and I actually believed or wanted to believe that she would get more rest if we were not there. I didn't listen to my heart, as I have not done in the past and have suffered dearly for it. I wish I could go back and change what I did, but we know I cannot. As painful as it is reading about all this sadness, I do believe it is helping. I don't feel I can share my thoughts with my family as I think they have already 'moved on'. And I cannot. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and caring words.

Just imagine all of us wrapping our arms around you to give you comfort. We will all be here for you when you are ready. (((((Hugs)))))

I just wanted to reply to Temmie and what she is going through. I am still going through the family 'issues' and there will always be someone who feels they deserve to have more than the others. Unfortunately, a death can bring out the worst in a family at times. At first, I really didn't care what I would get because the pain from loosing my Mother is so great, I really don't care. But, when I knew some of my family was going through items and throwing them away or taking them without consulting me or my other siblings, I was obviously upset. It's bad enough feeling that I may have not done enough to help my Mother and wish I could go back and do more, but the issues of dealing with her personal items and money issues, etc. can be extremely frustrating and also very emotional. Maybe (Temmie) if you could sit quietly and speak with someone in the family that you trust, just to let them know how you feel about how you are being treated, it would help to ease the hurt and frustration. I think I may know how you feel as I have been a 'talked about' regarding the last hospital stay for my Mom. And even though I know the comments and accusations are not true, it still hurts and only deepens the guilt I already feel. So, do what you need to heal 'you'. You are in pain and as the others have mentioned, you do not need to feel more than you already do. I hope words from others ease the hurt and that you can concentrate on yourself. I just take it day by day. Some days are okay, others are very bad and yet there are times I feel a sense of calm and I believe that is my Mom trying to help me through this. Wishing you peace

I am so sorry to hear of your Grandfather's loss. And to have lost so many of your loved one's. My heart goes out to you and your family. I will keep you in my prayers.

Dear Kim, I really am not good with words, but after hearing your story I want to let you know that you and your family are in my prayers and in my thoughts. I also want to let you know that my brother lost a kidney many years ago in an auto accident. He is now 53 years old and going strong. I hope this will be of some comfort regarding your son. Sending you many hugs and prayers <3

I just want to wish all of you some peace through the holidays and long after. It hasn't even been a month for me and my loss and every day, just getting up is difficult and watching everyone around me seemingly doing just fine. We all grieve in different ways and I think we can all gain some strength from each other by visiting here and feel like we are not alone. My family and friends are very supportive, but until it is 'you' going through this...they really don't understand. I am just taking each day as it comes and I hope that some day, I won't feel quite so empty inside. Take care everyone and have a safe New Year. I wish you peace and comfort

Mariah, I am just beginning this long journey and your words have already brought me comfort. Congratulations on your promotion and your happiness. I wish everyone here peace and I hope that each day that passes brings all of us comfort and less pain.