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I appreciate your comments. At this point my son wants another kitten in the next few weeks. I am not sure if I am ready, nor is my wife. I'm sure we'll be fine and accept the new kitten but I am also sure I will remain guarded for a short spell. Thanks everyone for your support. It seems like it was months ago and it was just over a week.

Marty- Thanks for the response. Already I see the healing. He told me "I will always have a place in my heart for her and no one else. I will make room in my heart for another, but not now." Clearly he spoke with a teacher today who gave him great advice. The cat died on his mom's birthday and I had created a calendar with photos of it. Included in it were a couple of the kitten and our adult cat. He wrote notes to her. I miss you, RIP and 2/3/09. He also spoke of the incident and the violent scene, the blood, the convulsions and knowing he caused it. I reminded him it was an accident. We'll heal, we're on our way. I miss the joy she brought us and occasional frustrations. The last time I saw her she was grabbing at my shoe laces, untying them as I tried to leave for work. I clearly recall not getting angry about it even though I was late. Good. This also appears good for me.

I am in a somewhat different situation. I received a phone call last night from my frantic wife with my 13 year old son screaming and crying in the background. He put the recliner chair down and it crushed his 12 week old kitten. She died on the way to the vets. After having a male cat for 5 years we decided to get a kitten. she was great for all of us, very entertaining, our older male cat, never around another cat before, acclimated well to her. He is clearly looking for her. I am surprised at my own mourning because she attached her self to me quite a bit napping in my arm or on my chest a lot. She could make us smile no matter what was going on, no matter how bad it was. She is clearly already missed. My older son (15) came home, hugged his little brother and cried with him. My wife and I are sick and worried about our son. I told him I loved him and that accidents happen. What can I do for my son in this? He's in school but doesn't want to be. He is being very hard on himself. My wife and he are traumatized by the ugliness (bloody, deformation, seizure) that went along with this including necessity to keep our some outside while his clothes and the floor was cleaned up. He is quite emotional anyways and I do not want him to continue on. I want to get another kitten, perhaps in a few months. Advice is welcome.