RhinoGal

Hi Courtney, My Daddy passed away one day after yours did...2/18/09. The first two weeks I was able to keep myself together but today I just can't stop crying. I think that the initial shock/numbness is wearing off and the pain is coming to the surface. My mom died unexpectedly on 3/30/01 when I was 23 and it took me many years to get through that loss, and even now, I grieve her right along with my Daddy. Some things that really helped me when my mom died and that I am starting again are: 1. Join a grief support group, online or if possible, in person as well. Your local Hospice may offer these classes and they are amazingly healing; 2. Check out some books on grief. I am re-reading Bob Deit's "Life After Loss" and it is really helpful. It goes through the stages of grief, what to expect, and specific exercises to get yourself in touch with your feelings and to HEAL. 3. Try to keep the 4 legs of your table balanced. They are: Nutrition (including lots of water), Rest, Mental/Spiritual Fitness and Exercise. I just wanted to let you know that I am here for you and I know what you are going through. You are doing a great job of being responsible so please give yourself credit for that. Also don't forget that it's normal to feel heartbroken and remember to take some time to just cry when you need to. Hugs, Susan