cml1016

My heart goes out to you on the loss of your Mother. I too lost my Mother this year. It has taken me 9 months to not cry every day. Everyone heals at their own pace and even when i think I am past the point of crying - I'll have a bad day and loose it all over again. Just after my Mom died, I was SO ANGRY that people would try and distract me or not talk about her (thinking talking about her would upset me). It was jsut the opposite - not talking about her is what upset me!!! When you go from having one of the most important people in your life every day, to them not being there at all is devastating!!! Like someone else posted - follow your heart with regards to your wedding. It is YOUR day and you want it to be special. Know that your Mom is in your heart and will be with you on your special day - whether it is in 9 days or not. Best of luck to you!!

Thank you so much for these - they are very helpful and express exactly how I am feeling. My children are young (4,6 & 9) and my biggest fear is that they will forget Grandma. Her grandchildren were her whole life and the thought of them not remembering that kills me. So, at least my kids and I talk about her and share stories every day to keep her memory alive.

It has been 5 months since my Mother passed away. I still struggle every day with trying to find my new "normal". I was her primary care taker and she lived with my family and I (husband and 3 young kids) for the last year of her life and passed at my house. As someone else said, I did everything for her - things I didn't think I could do for anyone (shots, etc.) but I did because Mom needed Me and I would do anything for the woman who gave me life, was my best friend, confidante, the greatest Grandmother in the world... My family keeps me busy and most days I do OK, but what I struggle with is I NEED to talk about her - and it seems like people don't want to. They change the subject or make some stupid comment about "she's not suffering anymore, she's in a better place". I know that all is true, but it makes me want to scream!!! Since the funeral was over, everyone else just goes back to their lives - for the past year, taking care of my Mom was my life, and before that, she was an every day part of my life and my kids lives - I don't know normal without her!

I lost my Mom in February 2009 and am already dreading Mother's Day this year, as it is also would have been my Mother's 67th birthday. I know that I should focus on being a Mother myself, but I am already getting myself worked up over getting through this first Mother's Day & her birthday without her. My birthday is also that week and Mom was always the first to call me to wish me a Happy Birthday - I can't bear knowing that, that call will not come this year. My 4 year old wished on a star last night and told me that her wish was that God would bring Grandma back to life... I wish it was that simple!!

My Mother passed away in February 2009, and my Uncle (my Father's twin) passed away in May 2008. My faith was rocked when we lost these two very special people in our family, but like others posted, my Mom would tell me in her final days that a loved one who has already passed came to visit her. She would also do these strange things with her hand (like she was threading a needle or reaching out to hug the air). The hospice nurse told us that from their experience, that is often a sign that someone from the other side is coming to bring them to heaven. That was comforting to me that Mom was not going lone. A few weeks ago, I was missing Mom terribly and searching too hard for a sign - then it came to me. My nickname all my life has been Sissy - and a friend sent me this song and said that it reminded her of my Mother & I. It is titles "Sissy's Song" by Alan Jackson and the words are: Why did she have to go So young I just don't know why Things happen half the time Without reason without rhyme Lovely, sweet young woman Daughter, wife and mother Makes no sense to me I just have to believe She flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees And she walks with Jesus and her loved ones waiting And I know she's smiling saying Don't worry 'bout me Loved ones she left behind Just trying to survive And understand the why Feeling so lost inside Anger shot straight at God Then asking for His love Empty with disbelief Just hoping that maybe She flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees And she walks with Jesus and her loved ones waiting And I know she's smiling saying Don't worry 'bout me It's hard to say goodbye Her picture in my mind Will always be of times I'll cherish And I won't cry 'cause She flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees And she walks with jesus and her loved ones waiting And I know she's smiling saying Don't worry 'bout me Don't worry 'bout me Don`t worry 'bout me I truly believe that this was my sign that Mom is telling me that she is in Heaven and is no longer suffering. When I am really sad and missing her, I play this song and it brings me great comfort.

My Mother passed away in February 2009, and my Uncle (my Father's twin) passed away in May 2008. My faith was rocked when we lost these two very special people in our family, but like others posted, my Mom would tell me in her final days that a loved one who has already passed came to visit her. She would also do these strange things with her hand (like she was threading a needle or reaching out to hug the air). The hospice nurse told us that from their experience, that is often a sign that someone from the other side is coming to bring them to heaven. That was comforting to me that Mom was not going lone. A few weeks ago, I was missing Mom terribly and searching too hard for a sign - then it came to me. My nickname all my life has been Sissy - and a friend sent me this song and said that it reminded her of my Mother & I. It is titles "Sissy's Song" by Alan Jackson and the words are: Why did she have to go So young I just don't know why Things happen half the time Without reason without rhyme Lovely, sweet young woman Daughter, wife and mother Makes no sense to me I just have to believe She flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees And she walks with Jesus and her loved ones waiting And I know she's smiling saying Don't worry 'bout me Loved ones she left behind Just trying to survive And understand the why Feeling so lost inside Anger shot straight at God Then asking for His love Empty with disbelief Just hoping that maybe She flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees And she walks with Jesus and her loved ones waiting And I know she's smiling saying Don't worry 'bout me It's hard to say goodbye Her picture in my mind Will always be of times I'll cherish And I won't cry 'cause She flew up to Heaven on the wings of angels By the clouds and stars and passed where no one sees And she walks with jesus and her loved ones waiting And I know she's smiling saying Don't worry 'bout me Don't worry 'bout me Don`t worry 'bout me I truly believe that this was my sign that Mom is telling me that she is in Heaven and is no longer suffering. When I am really sad and missing her, I play this song and it brings me great comfort.

Like many of you, I lost my Mother to cancer in February 2009. She was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer in January 2008 - we were lucky enough to have her for an entire year. She was my best friend & confidante - she lived with my family and I for the last 4 months of her life and I was lucky enough to hold her hand as she tooik her last breath. Many people have told me that things get harder before they get easier and that is where I am now. I have 3 small children who were the center of Grandma's world and I struggle to find the words to comfort them at times. Has anyone found a good book on the Grief of Loosing a Parent? I've purchased a couple that explain it to the kids, but I'd like one for me too.