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  1. Chai, I made it today. My mom passed on Nov. 16, 2008. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers tomorrow. We will get better. take care. Cubby
  2. Thank you Marty. I have read the article on locating a grief counselor. I will be looking into it as soon as possible. I really liked the You tube part of the article. I think that may be part of my problem. I visit my mom's grave a lot. I'm not sure why I feel the need to do this. I know she's not there. James, Thank you for your kind words and understanding. This site has so many kind and understanding people. A chaplain at the local Hospice gave me an article from this site after my mom passed.I'm sorry for your loss. Deb, I'm sorry that we are both having the same feelings.
  3. Hi, I haven't posted in awhile. I have been struggling and just didn't feel as if I could get my thoughts together well enough. My depression has been bad, but I have had a couple of days that I thought I might survive. I recently attended a Celebration of Life ceremony presented by my local Hospice. It was a nice service. They read a short passage about each of our loved ones that have passed on this past year.I also lit a candle in my mom's memory. At the end of the service white doves were released. I actually released one of the doves. I felt as though part of my pain was lifted fo
  4. Thank you All (deegee,rachel and kavish) for responding. I'm still not having any good days. I've tried everything but I still feel so down and tired. I've visited the cemetery every day this week so that I could talk with my mom. I do wish I could hear her response to me.I need her so much. She was my best friend and I could tell her everything. I'm afaid that I will forget the sound of her voice. I look at her pictures often as I do not want to forget her. On top of all my feelings, my dad called today to tell me that his sister (my aunt) who lives about 500 miles away passed away on
  5. I feel like I'm just about to lose my mind.It has been 10 months since my mom passed so I'm not sure if this has to do with my grief or if I'm severely depressed or could it be something else? I feel like I hate everything. Nothing brings any pleasure or happiness.I am always tired, sleepy and would rather just sit here at home. I have a good husband, but he hasn't been able to help me.I think it frustrates him that I can't just shake these feelings. I'm really scared of some of my thoughts. I feel like I've just lost all control of my life. My husband keeps telling me that I have so many
  6. Hi everyone. My mom passed away 1 week before Thanksgiving last year. My family was numb through the holidays. Now I am concerned about celebrating at Thanksgiving and Christmas. It depresses me to even think about it. My mom always prepared Thanksgiving Dinner until she became too ill to carry on tradition. Then I started preparing Thanksgiving dinner and she was my guest. I managed to do that 1 week after her death, but now I don't think I can do it. I know that my dad and brother expect me to continue,but things have changed so much. My dad has a lady friend living with him now. It is
  7. I know how you feel. I lost my mom in Nov. 08. I wouldn't go by my parents house, because that allowed me to pretend that it wasn't true that she wasn't really gone. It was really hard to visit with my dad because my mom wasn't there anymore. Sometimes it would be inmy mind that she was at the hospital, or sleeping in another room. Anything to avoid accepting that she was really gone. I'm sorry that you are going through this. Just know that you are not alone. We all share your pain and are going through the same feelings. Hang in there and take care of yourself. Cubby
  8. Thank you for sharing. I agree that most people think you are okay because you aren't crying. This is a great piece to share. It definitely makes me think. I think I've been coasting along the last few weeks trying to avoid the pain. I don't know what I'd do without this site to read and post. Thanks everyone especially you Mary Linda! Cubby
  9. I too wish for dreams of my mom. I can only remember 1 dream since she passed away. It didn't show her face I only heard her voice. She told me everything was going to be alright. I had just received a call from my doctor, who wanted to do a more thorough mamogram. They thought there was a cyst or lump in my breast based on my yearly checkup. I was extremely upset and worried. That was the only time that I can recall having a dream since my mom passed. I think about all the phone calls that we shared... If I call the number today, my dad answers the phone, so I don't ever gear my mom a
  10. Hi... So sorry about your mom. I think you must go through a numb period. I know it takes time for reality to sink in. It doesn't matter how long our parents live, we still want them to live longer. My mom was 65 and spent the last 5 years of here life battling lung cancer. She fought a long and hard battle, but it was still difficult to accept that she was gone. Take care of yourself and don't rush your feelings. Give yourself a break. The tears will come and you will be exhausted from them. Your mom was probably trying to prepare you when she said that people weren't meant to live bey
  11. Oh Chagrin... I am so sorry that you must go through this. I have a daughter your age and cannot imagine ever putting her in this situation. I too went thgrough a short period with my dad of not being a part of his life. He became angry at me when I questioned his actions so soon after my mom's death. He even went so far as to tell me he didn't need me in his life anymore. He told me he was a grown man and would live his life his way. After a couple of weeks he calmed down and we have been working on our relationship. I know we all grieve differently and at different paces. My mom had b
  12. Hi All. I lost my mom( Nov 08). I still have good days and bad days. Some times the grief is overwhelming. The bad days are not as frequent as in the past, but I still have my moments of crying my eyes out. I guess the crying is part of the healing that we must go through. Take care of yourself. Cubby
  13. Hi Chagrin, I lost my mom 10 months ago today. She fought a courageous battle with lung cancer for 5 years. My dad was very devoted to my mom and was her primary care giver. However within weeks , he was"dating". At first I was extremely angry and hurt. It was very difficult to have my dad bring his lady friend to my house for Christmas dinner.( my mom had only been gone a month). Within a few weeks after christmas his lady friend moved in to live with him. Once again, it was awful and very painful for me to deal with this. His lady friend was a very nice lady and very caring. She
  14. Happy belated Birthday Chai. I haven't been online in a while. I hope you had a peaceful birthday. Cubby
  15. Chai, My heart aches for you. I know it is difficult to have so much happening in such a short time. I'm glad you got to spend time with your grandmother. I'm glad you found a grief support group near your home. I hope you receive as much love and support as you provide to all of us on this site. Hang in there... I'm thinking of you. Cubby
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