Hi: I'm new here and am glad to find a site for people who have lost a spouse. I lost my husband in Jan. 2009 to Prostrate Cancer and every day since is like a nightmare. It's been 3 months now and the pain, emptiness, loneliness, sadness and missing him is so overwhelming. He was sick for 2 1/2 years and lost so much from this disease. I was home with him full time the last year of his battle. We were soulmates in every sense of the word and he was my world. Without him, life has no meaning or reason. I get up each day and go to bed each night not wanting to face the next day without him. We were together for 15 years. This house of ours is so empty and quiet even when i put music or the tv on. I try to stay busy but nothing helps. I feel like i'm functioning on remote and don't remember most of what i did the week before. I feel like i shouldn't talk or cry about him in front of others so i try to act as if i'm okay when i'm not and that frustrates me. People seem to think that if you just stay busy it will be better. It isn't. I know that everyone has their own way of dealing with their loss, i just wish people could let me handle mine however i need to without backing away from me and leaving me so alone. I'm so angry at him for leaving me here alone yet i know it wasn't his fault. I just want him back and life as it was before this. I looked forward to spring after a long, cold winter and now i wish it wasn't coming. It's just another reminder of what i have to face without him. The things that he always took care of, the bbq that was his thing, camping and walks in the bush behind our home, just looking out at our deck is painful and the idea of sitting on it is too much without him. I know it's wrong but sometimes i hate people who have their partner and look so happy when my world is without mine. I don't know how to get through this or how to want to get through this. We have adult children but there is alot of strain between them and it doesn't help. They came together for him this past Xmas (i think he knew it would be his last) but now that he is gone they are back to not speaking to each other so even getting together with all of them at one time is most likely not ever going to happen again. He always tried to make things right between them and get them to see how important family was. Now that's gone too. Sorry for rambling, i just don't know how to be here without him. Thanks for listening