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My nephew was going to work. Yes I do have sons that are close to his age and there are other grandchildren. My sons were very close to my nephew and there are other grandchildren in the family. At this point my sister in law is unapproachable and I am afraid to say anything to her. The last thing I said to her, weeks ago, was I hugged her and told her I loved her and she just responded "O.K." I talk to my brother every week and I just feel so, so sorry because he is in the middle and I know he knows how she is treating all of us and he just tries to keep everything going. I am so at a loss because my parents are so hurt, both by my nephew's loss and the way she is treating them. My sister in law has always been kinda stand offish but this is so different. Recently we had a loss in my fathers family and she wouldn't even sit with the family. Again, she seems to be teating eveyone else normal but all of us. We miss him terribly and there has never been any 'feud' between any of us. I just don't understand.

I am in such need of advice that I searched and round this forum. I have been reading and searching for answers on here but I want someone to personally help me. My 21 year old nephew died in an accident in November. Since that time, his mother, my sister-in-law, will not speak or even look at my family or parents. We are at a total loss at what to do. We have been grieving too and have tried to understand. My brother has been so caring to us and he seems embarassed at her behavior towards all of us. We just act like everything is fine but it is killing my parents. We don't want to ask or say anything because everything is still so fresh with all of us. We have been nothing but supportive and we all were very close to my nephew. She is even ignoring and not speaking to my children. I have noticed that she acts normal around others. Please give me some insight. My heart breaks for them but I don't understand what is going on.