KevinS

Hi Andy, I had a similar experience a couple of days ago. When I was laying on my side in the bed, I felt pressure on my back. It was just the way it felt when my Tiger would lean up against me in the bed. After a minute I didn't feel it anymore and fell asleep. I don't know what it was, maybe wishful thinking, but I definitely felt it. Kevin

Hi Laurena, I, too, am so sorry for the loss of your Fozzi. It's such a shock to suddenly find out that they will no longer be with you. My Tiger died unexpectedly in the middle of the night. I heard him wake up from the bed and go drink some water. I figured he would them eat some and then ask to go outside like normal, so I stayed half asleep in bed. Later I heard a strange noise and went out to check and he was lying on the living room floor completely limp. He took a gasp and I checked to see if he was choking on something. He took another gasp and I could feel his heart, which was racing, stop. In less than half a minute he died in my hands and I never got to say goodbye. I was just screaming "No" and crying. I have so much unresolved guilt. If I had thought to give him artificial resperation maybe he would have revived enough to get to the emergency hospital. Maybe if I got up earlier there would have been enough time. Maybe I missed some change in his behaviour in the previous days. Maybe something happened when he was out earlier in the evening. He did have a medical issue last year that the vet never found the root cause of. Maybe if I took him to a better vet. I buried him on the day he died. I thought about getting an autopsy done but thought "Why? It won't bring him back." Now I wish I had so that I would know what he died from and maybe resolve some of my guilt. I have thought about getting another cat or two, but I am not ready now. If I do though, I would definitely keep them inside. Thanks for letting me ramble. Kevin

Thanks Marty. I think some of my friends don't know what to say at times. I can see the confusion and sorrow in their faces. I think some don't like to talk about grief either. The other thing that has hit me hard is how empty the house is without Tiger. When I get up in the morning and when I get home after work, I just stand there not knowing what to do. He's not there any more needing me to feed him or wanting to play or just lay in my lap and be petted. Well, now I'm crying again. Thanks again for your kind words, Kevin

Hello Everyone, It has just passed 1 month since my cat Tiger died suddenly. It hurt again just as bad as it did right after he died. Last week, I first received his grave marker and set that on his grave which was really sad. The next day was 4 weeks since he died and then 1 month which really made me depressed. I was mad at myself too because I forgot at first that it had been 1 month. He was the only pet that I ever really had and was with me for 10 years. I feel so sad, too, that I am the only person that misses him and is grieving for him. Friends that I have talked to, even ones who have pets, don't seem to understand why I am grieving so much for him. Missing Tiger, Kevin