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ELHG

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About ELHG

  • Birthday 06/10/1940

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  • Date of Death
    2-24-09
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    Hospice of the Valley - Mesa AZ

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    Female
  • Location (city, state)
    Tempe AZ
  1. Hi everybody, I am a widow twice. I know about unfinished plans too. My second husband and I had plans. We talked about traveling... discussed it a lot while we were dating. Then, after our marriage on Valentines Day 2009, our time ran out. He died ten days later, and we never had a chance to travel together. I'm not much of a traveler by myself, because I get lost so easily and it scares me. But I've purchased a Garmin GPS, and I've been practicing some freeway driving close to home. And... I've started taking some short day trips to attractions that aren't real far away. I've even stayed overnight once in Prescott AZ. This is all new to me, and accomplishing the "art of travel" makes me feel proud. I wanted to honor my dear man this way, to still travel like we were going to do together. It is almost like we are together as I learn to find my way around. If you want to, you could read more about my travel attempts in my blog, MR. G. AND ME. (see website addresses below.) from ELHG (MY WIDOW'S WALK - http://my-widows-walk.blogspot.com/ ) (MR. G. AND ME - http://mrgandme-elhg.blogspot.com/ )
  2. Try not to feel guilty about anything... all the "could-a would-a should-a's in the world won't change anything. Do cry... as much and as often as you need to. It is your release. I've been doing a lot of unexpected crying lately... I always feel better afterwards. When you're really feeling down, could you write about it? Sometimes just putting your feelings down on paper helps you sort things out. Journaling about my life as a widow x2 has helped me a lot. My journal is in the form of a blog. Please feel free to read some of it if you would like to. It's called My Widow's Walk. You will find it here. http://my-widows-walk.blogspot.com From your friend, ELHG
  3. Hello. I am a newbie here, but am eager to know you. I have been widowed twice. Most recently... PG and I were married on Valentine's Day 2009. Three days later he suffered a massive heart attack. Life support kept him alive for seven days while various tests and treatments were accomplished. Our family honored his Living Will and life support was removed on Day #9. He died on Day #10. Now some may think the second time would be less difficult and heart-wrenching. Not so... It's just different than the first time. Oh how I miss him. I ache for his arms around me. It is hard to be with other people... easier to play the hermit. I know... I know. I need to be with people. And it's true... I always feel better after I've been "out"... even if it's just for a meal or groceries. I force myself to get out of my house. Also, I write down what I'm doing, what I'm going to do, how I'm feeling, what worked to raise my spirits and what didn't. It's like journaling, but I do it on a blog that others can read if they choose to. Maybe what I write will help someone else, but it's mostly to help me. The blog is called 'My Widow's Walk.' And you are welcome to follow it if you would like to. Just go here... My Widow's Walk
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