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Dear Faith, please excuse me, I missed saying your beautiful baby still remains in your life with you, in your heart and in your memories. I hope you are doing better, you and your 3 year old daughter. By talking and sharing about your child, you honour her life. Shevonne

Healing from Loss Life is not forever, but death is for sure then we are left with the loss to endure Sadly , that is the case we must all have to face In the times and the depth of grief we must hold on tight to the belief We will heal from the pain one day Of our loved ones who passed away I'll never forget all the love and joy you brought I wanted it to last forever, that's what I thought I ask myself, now that you are gone what can I do besides keep you in my heart and never forget you Shevonne

Life is not forever, but death is for sure then we are left with the loss to endure Sadly that's the case we all have to face In the time & depth of grief we hold tightly to the belief We will heal from the pain one day Of our loved ones who passed away Shevonne

(((((((((((faith))))))))))) I'm so sorry. The loss of your child is so recent, I can just imagine how you are feeling. It's so hard in the beginning, the loss of a loved one, whom you shared your life with, was part of your life. You say, you don't know what to do now that a big part of your life is missing. I know how you feel. I wrote how I feel, about life and death, in the Grief and Loss forum. That life feels like death to me, when death takes away the life of loved ones. It feels like I also died. Fortunately, it won't always feel that way. Life will be ok again, not the same or perfect, but ok. From my own experience with loss, Love Support, Time and lots of Talking about the loved one/s you lost, help in the healing. Words from my heart. Shevonne

Life feels like Death to me, when death takes the life of loved ones. I feel better now just to write it down.

Hi, I'm sorry for your loss of Bear, what a beautiful post about your Bear. I truly hope you are comforted and loved and supported with your grief, the way you comforted and loved your Bear. Sincerely, Shevonne

Dear Sapphire, I'm really sorry for the loss of your brother, and your sister, and that they both left behind their children, that's so unfair. I don't blame you for being mad. I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I just hope things work out for you and get better, during these sad times. Take care. Sincerely, Shevonne

Hello, I'm so sorry for the hard decision you had to make for Tasha. It's normal how you feel, everything seems upside down right now, that all your energy, your thoughts are going to your beloved Tasha. It's like nothing else matters anymore. You still love your other dogs, it's just that right now you are so consumed with the loss of Tasha. I had the same feelings. I'm sorry that I can only say from my experience with my dog, that slowly, you will start to feel better. It's only a matter of time. To have family or friends or a group like this to talk about Tasha, I think will really help. Sincerely, Shevonne

Dear Gail, I'm sorry for the loss of your baby angel girl Elizabeth. My heart goes out to you. When I first read your post, I wanted to respond, but didn't have the words, sorry about that. All I know is that I'm a mother too, and I understand the pain in your heart. It's natural and understandable how you feel, it's only been recently that you lost your child. You have a lot to say but just don't know where to start, start anywhere Gail. You'll make it through, just take your time. I wish you and your family comfort. Sincerely, Shevonne

Hi Kim, I'm sorry to hear that your father passed on Monday. It's sad that we have to lose our loved ones, and one day our loved ones have to lose us. That's why it's so important to love one another while we are still here. I think what you wish to do in memory of your father, (the pendant), is just beautiful, it's not weird at all. You are the one who had a relationship with your father, it's your personal choice. You have enough to worry about right now, then to worry about insensitivity of people. Try not to feel guilty that you are not crying for your father. The way I see it, we already begin grieving for our loved ones, before they pass, because of their illness and all, like you, I also saw the deterioration over the years, it's heartbreaking. Like your father, who had Parkinson and Dimentia. You really do feel for them when they are ill like that. My mother also had Parkinson and Musculor dystrophy, she passed away in Sept. 2001, she was 60 years old. Although we did not have a loving relationship, I still tried my best and did what I could for her. I also had to take care of my own family, my children. You must feel relieved that you were able to be with your father when he passed away. Please don't feel that you did not receive an immediate response, that nobody cares. Hang in there Kim. Peace be with you Sincerely, Shevonne

Corinna, I forgot to mention in my above post to you, aslo, because we see our pets as children, I think people would agree, that means we are the parent, so when we lose an animal it's like we lost a child. Losing a child is very painful. You were the mother of Tazz, you have the right to grieve for Tazz your baby. No, losing a dog, a beloved animal is not less painful, in my case it was greater the pain, the loss. I wish you healing. Shevonne

Cathy, I'm so sorry. Please try to be strong, I know it hurts. You should be proud of yourself, for saving a life for 13 years, I hope you find some comfort in that. I wish my dog had lived for that long, she was 7 years old when she died, last year, it hurt so bad, she fell sick all of a sudden. It was the saddest day of my life. I'll be thinking of you and Earnie with a candle lit. Shevonne

Hello Corinna, I would like to say, I'm sorry for your losing Tazz and your grandfather recently. I am going to light a candle for Tazz and your grandfather. Lighting a candle for my dog when she died one year ago gave me some kind of comfort. I still light candles. It's interesting, when reading your post, it reminded me of my situation. I grieve more for my dog than my family members. I concluded that the reason being is, that I did not have a loving, affectionate, closeness, relationship in my family. Whereas my dog gave love and affection, and vice-versa. I ask myself was this unfortunate, that I didn't have a loving family. Maybe the answer is yes, or maybe no. Don't get me wrong, it was so sad and still is sad losing my family members, one after the other. I just wanted to let you know that I understand how you feel . Also because your grand- father was sick with cancer you were probably already grieving before he passed away. Shevonne

Hello Hesebes, I'm really sorry for your loss of Baxter. That's exactly how our animals feel to us like children. When I lost my dog in 2002, it was the saddest day of my life. All the feelings that you describe are the same feelings I went through. Thank goodness the pain subsides, and with the help and support of family or friends, it can really make a big difference. I lit a candle when my dog died. I will light a candle for Baxter, you made a difference in Baxter's life you rescued him, that's one of the ways that I dealt with the loss of my dog, that I had rescued her. I had to keep on reminding myself that I had made a difference in her life. I really believe that Baxter didn't feel any pain. Shevonne

Hello, Momalomax, thank you for your understanding, it's really nice when someone can relate to your own experiences. I'm sorry for the loss of your family members, it's unfair one after the other. I lost one after the other, in my family too. My father not recently, in 1987, grandmother,1999, brother, 2000, mother, 2001 and a pet in 2002. I have no mother no father, I jokingly tell my kids, that I feel like an orphan, I don't like to feel sorry for myself, it won't get me anywhere. I tell my children they should appreciate that they have their mother. That family comes first. Anyways, I hope you take care. Shevonne

One after the other, when one member of the family goes, the others seem to go shortly after. I wish that wasn't so.

I lost my brother to heart failure, July 2000. He was only 40 years old. All I do is think about death. My brother was such a good guy wouldn't hurt anyone, he was so humble. I'm not sure if thinking about death is a sign of depression.