Thank you Aries for all you kind words and everyone's thoughts. I am amazed at how I feel is reflected insome of your words. I did not realize that being dazed is all a part of it. We too, have to liquidate Mum's stuff and it is all painful and filled with memories. Sometimes there is a scent and it is like a knife in my heart at the memory. I have multiple losses like so many of you and I find myself being whittled down by all of this. It took me 5 years to move on from my Dad's death and 10 years after the loss of my sister and her three little ones. Somedays I cannot even put it into words. I think perhaps I need to go to a group here in town? My brother and i just keep putting so many things off, is this normal too? Oh my, when does it stop???