Our family was told two years ago that my mother-in-law had terminal cancer. No time frame was give at that time. Now we have been told she has six months to live. The doctors sent her home from the hospital to die. So she is on the clock. I have already lost a parent and have gone through the grief and mouring process. My husband is the oldest son of three sons. In 1976 he was in a car accident in which he lost 1/4 of his brain. He was given one year to live. It was his mother that brought him back from the grave. A very special bond was formed. My husband is taking the pending death of his mother the hardest. He is very depressed, not sleeping and cries all the time. He will not seek help. Says he doesn't need help, he can handle this by himself. I hate to think of what he wil do once she actually passes. He father has told him NOT to come home until his mother dies. There is nothing he can do to help her. I believe this is part of his problem....not able to say goodbye to his mom. We saw her in May but this was before she was told she only had six months to live. He wants to go home but is listening to his father (ruler of the family). I am trying to support him the best I can. He has many health problems himself, so I worry about what this is doing to him. Besides being his caregiver, I am the caregiver to my 90 year old mother that lives with us. Needless to say I too am stressed. I'm at a loss as what to do help him besides just being here. I too love my mother-in-law and will miss her dearly once she has passed. It's this six month clock that is driving us crazy. Why do doctors make such statements? Hospics has been called in to help during this period. Hospics was involed in the passing of my father...10 days until he passed. I wish God would take her just to stop her suffering and the pain of those she is leaving behind. Perhaps I am wrong by saying this but I truely believe it would be best for all involved. My husband could get on with his griefing. Just as I wish my mother would pass. She just wants to die and be with my father. It's been seven years and she is mad every day God has not taken her. Does anyone have any insight to this problem? My prayers are what I'm doing at this time.
