lizbeth

Hello Kathy, Thank you for your posting. I am so sorry about your parents and your son. You were able to be there for your parents and care for them in such a personal way. What a blessing your were to them! It sounds like you took on so much with both your parents and your sisters were not comfortable with you expressing your emotions and feelings. I know every family member experiences loss differently but it is our loss and our experience too. I know some people's passing/transition is peaceful and serene but it is such a hard transition to be a part of and see the struggle for days and nights. Being a caregiver allowed me to have such a strong bond and connection with both of my parents but it was so hard to see them struggle and feel so helpless and limited in what I could do. I wanted to heal them both and take the pain and the sickness away. My dad died within several weeks of his diagnosis and my mom had medical issues for almost 20 years with continued physical deterioration. I wanted to make it all better for them. I couldn't save either one of them no matter what I did or how much I loved them. Anyway I am going off here. Kathy again, I am sorry about your parents and your son. I can't imagine losing a child. I hope this site is a support for you as well. Sincerely, Lizbeth

Hello Annie, Thank you for your kind words. I am so sorry to hear about your mother and father. No one can ever replace our parents and I think there will always be an emptiness without them. I know in time it won't be so raw and I am able to remember wonderful times and memories of both my parents. I am glad your grief therapist was such a tremendous support for you. I am thinking of joining a group here in town. The hospice that we used for both my parents is out of state. My thoughts are with you too. Sincerely, Lizbeth.

It has been almost 3 months since my beautiful mom died..... I thought I was doing okay, but I have just tried not to think about it. My mom had medical problems and needed care for almost 20 years. What am I now if I am not worrying, thinking, dealing with medical issues, hospitalizations, helping with caregiving etc. I feel like a middle aged orphan. My dad died 6 years ago. His death was so quick, I still can't believe my wonderful father is gone. They were both in hospice care at the end. I know my family thinks I am doing just fine, but its sooo hard and personal. I don't want to share my grief at times and it is easier for me to do this anonymously.